illmasta Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 5 months and we are very much in love, but we are both seniors in high school and will be going off to college come August and will be at least 8 hours apart. I'm feeling so lost and unsure of what to do. I want to stay with her through college, but 4 years is such a long time when you can rarely see the other person. I don't know much about long distance relationships and I'm worried we could make things worse by staying together if things become strained, but it's not like I would want to go out with any other girls if we did separate because I'd still love her. Can anyone offer any advice or experience?
norajane Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 You'll start out in a long distance relationship, have a beautiful reunion at Thanksgiving where you vow to do the hard work that it takes, and then you'll break up at Christmas break. Or you might even break up by Thanksgiving, depends on whether one or both of you makes an effort to get to know people at college...or is wowed by someone you meet during Orientation Week. It rarely works. So you might save yourself the pain of watching it dwindle and die out by ending things after this summer. There will be tons of people at college who are around all the time and you will have things in common with them, lots of new experiences and your lives will start to move in different directions. Add the difficulty of maintaining a relationship where you hardly ever see each other and it's really not likely to last. The good part is you probably won't care THAT much by then because you'll both have met new people and start to get involved with them IF you allow yourself to instead of sitting in your room every night on IM.
ShoeGirl Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 The good part is you probably won't care THAT much by then because you'll both have met new people and start to get involved with them IF you allow yourself to instead of sitting in your room every night on IM. norajane is right on with her advice, especially the bolded part. At least that is the mistake I made. I was with a guy for 6 months when I left for college, we did everything we could to make it work, called each other every night and talked for at least an hour, made trips to see each other many many times, etc. 2 years later we broke up because he was cheating but in all honesty I was wanting out before I knew that. I regretted staying with him that long because I really missed out on college by sitting at home talking to him.
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