MichaelisSingle Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 hey there, my ex and i broke up 2 months ago, since then she has started dating another guy, but im still crazy about her. long story short, her bday is tomorrow and im wondering if i should break 3 weeks of NC, or say something any ideas?
Starsky Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Michael, She has already moved on and I suggest you try to move on too. I doubt anything good can happen from you breaking NC to wish her a happy birthday. If anything, it will only set you back to where you started. I had to create an account to tell you this because I was in a similar situation and I don't want you to make the same mistake I did. -Starsky
vivrantflo Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Why would you want to wish her a happy birthday when she has another man?? Dont say anything.. she's not your girl anymore.. try your best to detach from her, and move on with your life.
mark982 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 no way would i contact her. sure it hurts. but you'll have a setback.
atc2410 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I was exactly where you are earlier this year and chose not to send the bday msg. Three weeks is still too early to be contacting even for her bday. If you send it you'll do your head in over whether she does/does not respond. How was your last conversation? Are you on good terms?
norajane Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 What would be the point of wishing her happy birthday? Especially when you know she'll be spending it with her new boyfriend, most likely? You don't think your well wishes are going to make her suddenly fall back in love with you and dump her boyfriend, do you? She's moved on. It's time you did, too.
City_girl Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Again, don't do it. Don't forget she had every opportunity to contact you for the last three weeks and didn't do it.
eagle5 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Definately don't do it, she doesn't deserve your good sentiments. She may be a bit put out that you don't but that should give you an element of satisfaction, it's like saying to her 'I've moved on too, I'm not thinking about you!' even if it's not true at the moment.
NotMyselfNEmore Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Only ONE question: Do you think she will call you on YOUR birthday? There, is your answer.
Author MichaelisSingle Posted March 18, 2008 Author Posted March 18, 2008 we were on good terms when we broke up, she wont be with her new bf bc she is out of town, my bday was a few weeks before we broke up and she bought me an ipod touch.. soo
NotMyselfNEmore Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Ok... that WAS your birthday when the two of you were STILL together. I meant, will she call you on your next birthday? Do you think she will? Probably not.
dfreeman Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 NOTHING! That is the only thing that she wants, deserves and should get from you on her birthday. Get better fast, dfree
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