Author wareagle Posted March 30, 2008 Author Posted March 30, 2008 It's hard not to follow your heart, I can totally relate. But I think what also happens is we start to base our self worth off this "past" relationship so we hold on even more to the "relationship" because it has become so much a part of who we are. I totally agree with you, I feel I have lost my true identity of who I am. A couple of co-workers recently said that I am not the same person I used to be. I know it stems from spending a year and half of my life trying to help someone build up there self esteem, confidence, trying to make them realize that they are a beautiful person inside and out. While doing this I got lost somewhere, lost my self esteem, confidence, and all I was living my life for was to try and make this person happy, while all along I wasn't happy with the way things were. I would tell myself that I was, but deep down inside I knew I was giving up alot of what I believed in to be with this person, putting up with things I would have never even thought about before. It takes to people to make a relationship work, and I was willing to give all that I could to make it work, when she wouldn't even compremise over the littlest things. I have been doing some research into borderline personality disorder, and I believe this is what she has.
Author wareagle Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Ok the latest from my ex. She just sent me a text saying. Goodluck in life. I do believe there is some person out ther for everyone and that was not us. You can't force things to work. I hope you find that someone. What is up with that, She hasn't tried to contact me for a week now. I haven't had any contact with her. Why in the world would she send me that? That is so mean, she dumped me/ I am so pissed right now.
stoneymirror Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 Thats why you don't ever call her again, and move on with your life. She's saying goodbye to you, but at the same time she wants you to know she's still there. Too confusing for me, I wouldn't respond at all and leave her alone for good. Good luck...
Author wareagle Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 Is she seeking closure? Is she trying to open the door for me to communicate with her? I have no intentions on texting back or calling or meeting face to face. I am just so confused on why she would do this to me. It's been three weeks now, and I have been as strong as I can be in keeping nc. Is she being genuine or is there some kind of head game behind it. Is she trying to tell me she has someone else for she say's that she hopes I find someone?
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