Mary Shadows Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I met this guy, we hit it off, we messed around, NO SEX! I went back home, and he made no effort to contact me. No e-mail, no texts, no calls..my question is this..does he simply not care, because I'm not where he is, or did I lose his respect by fooling around too early? It seems as though he dosen't want to try and mantain a "friendship" though, we aren't friends, because he dosen't know how to be one. He even aksed if I was going to act different, but yet he's the one who has made little contact with me. Am I just there when it's convenient for him? What's going on. If I go back to visit my friends, and he texts me, should I respond back. I have already told him that I feel like he does nothing to keep in touch...and NOTHING!!!
audrey_1 Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 My honest opinion is this was a one-night-stand without the sex, which is better than one with. If he contacts you down the road, then great! See what he says and take it from there, but DON'T contact him again or ask him anymore "why" questions. It will just frustrate you more when he continues not to respond.
AussieJack Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 . Am I just there when it's convenient for him? What's going on. You were his entertainment for the night. AND unfortunately he has NO interest in pursuing you any further. Stay away and do NOT regard him as a "challenge" - HE is a better playa than you are and you will get more of the same if you re-approach..
Author Mary Shadows Posted March 17, 2008 Author Posted March 17, 2008 The funny thing is that he hasn't had a gf in three years, and he sits in his room all day and plays video games. He told me what I wanted to hear, and I'm so stupid I fell for it, and actually thought he was a good person. Man, was I wrong. :-/
Trialbyfire Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Being interested in something longer-term and being a good person, aren't synonymous. Consider this a learning experience, in that he's not for you. Hopefully you'll see the signs, next time you meet someone who's not that interested.
directx Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I simply don't think he is interested. I wouldn't take it personal, and it doesn't sound like you lost much with a guy that sits at home and plays video games all day. He is probably socially retarded.
pandagirl Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Don't worry about it. Just know it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him. I've been in these situations, and while they suck, ultimately it has no reflection on you as person.
Author Mary Shadows Posted March 17, 2008 Author Posted March 17, 2008 I simply don't think he is interested. I wouldn't take it personal, and it doesn't sound like you lost much with a guy that sits at home and plays video games all day. He is probably socially retarded. Thats funny, my mother said the same thing, that he is probably socially retarded:D At least you gave me a laugh, but it's true, I think!
Author Mary Shadows Posted March 17, 2008 Author Posted March 17, 2008 Being interested in something longer-term and being a good person, aren't synonymous. Consider this a learning experience, in that he's not for you. Hopefully you'll see the signs, next time you meet someone who's not that interested. His signs were very unclear in the begining, telling me how he's never met a girl like me, and talking about dating, but in the next sentence, saying he dosen't need a gf, because he has his "things"..but now I see by what everyone is saying, bottom line, he's not worth my thoughs!
directx Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Thats funny, my mother said the same thing, that he is probably socially retarded:D At least you gave me a laugh, but it's true, I think! I always make people laugh when I am serious. I always piss people off when i try to make them laugh. Maybe I should try to make people cry... but yeah its probably true. He sounds like work. Find someone thats into you. Shouldn't be hard.
Immortalone Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 You said he sits in his room and plays video games all day and has not had a gf for 3 years. Sounds like that right there is the problem. Video games are the new drugs on the street. Many people get so addicted to them they lose touch with real people or feel they don't need real people around them. Matter of fact online games are becoming a major reason for divorces now.
pandagirl Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 He sound socially weird. I had a somewhat similar experience with an awkward guy once. Whaddayaknow -- he was a computer guy. Technology is ruining people!
xpaperxcutx Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Rule of thumb: never date anyone who just sits at home playing video games. They're too preoccupied with the virtual world to pay attention to anything else. The only routine that gamers fall into are: eat, sleep, play games, and masturbation. And occasionally a random broad that'll give it up on the first date. You should find someone else. You don't want someone who's socially inept and looks paler than you because he hasnt been out in day.
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