DrGilbertBrown Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I'd like to hear some strategies to maximize results in the dating game from a male point of view. The one I like the most is to try and maintain "burner girls." These are the girls that you are friendly with but aren't in a relationship with. While setting your sights on one particular girl these other girls are "on the burner." If it doesn't pan out with the original girl another one is taken off the burner. This IMO has two advantages. First investing all of your time and emotional energy into one girl is risky the same way putting all of the money in your 401(k) into a single stock is risky. No big deal if things don't' work out. There's plenty of other prospects on the burner. Secondly girls are, for the most part, attracted to men who have other women attracted to them. It's an indicator that the man isn't sleazy or mentally ill. Any other strategies? I'd really like to get the biggest bang for the buck in this game.
AussieJack Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Secondly girls are, for the most part, attracted to men who have other women attracted to them. It's an indicator that the man isn't sleazy or mentally ill. This is sometimes called "social proof" and it is a valuable commodity.
AussieJack Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 The one I like the most is to try and maintain "burner girls." These are the girls that you are friendly with but aren't in a relationship with. While setting your sights on one particular girl these other girls are "on the burner." If it doesn't pan out with the original girl another one is taken off the burner. This is good strategy. It also rids a guy of the "scarcity mentality" to avoid the dreaded ONEITIS ( being hooked into a woman who is not good for you)
Author DrGilbertBrown Posted March 17, 2008 Author Posted March 17, 2008 (edited) Another one that I sometimes use is to pay more attention to an attractive girl's uglier friend than to her. This drives them utterly crazy especially if they're insecure about themselves. She knows she is more attractive than her friend so she'll be saying, "WTF, why is this guy into her and not me?" So let's say you're at the bar and a girl that you know and like and her ugly friend are talking with one another. Chat with her ugly friend and try to be genuinely interested in what she says. The lengths some girls go to to get your attention is amazing. Don't give it to her though. It's a game if you do she'll know what you're up to. Meet her halfway though and cop her number or something. Make it look passable. Negging can be effective sometimes also. Make fun of the girl. Tastefully, don't go overboard. Make it appear in a joshing sort of manner. If anything it can make a night at the bar pretty hilarious. Only really works on the anonymous sort of girls you see at bars and clubs. Doing it to the girl you work with can be a disaster. Edited March 17, 2008 by DrGilbertBrown
AussieJack Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Another one that I sometimes use is to pay more attention to an attractive girl's uglier friend than to her. This drives them utterly crazy especially if they're insecure about themselves. She knows she is more attractive than her friend so she'll be saying, "WTF, why is this guy into her and not me?" So let's say you're at the bar and a girl that you know and like and her ugly friend are talking with one another. Chat with her ugly friend and try to be genuinely interested in what she says. The lengths some girls go to to get your attention is amazing. Don't give it to her though. It's a game if you do she'll know what you're up to. Meet her halfway though and cop her number or something. Make it look passable. Negging can be effective sometimes also. Make fun of the girl. Tastefully, don't go overboard. Make it appear in a joshing sort of manner. If anything it can make a night at the bar pretty hilarious. Only really works on the anonymous sort of girls you see at bars and clubs. Doing it to the girl you work with can be a disaster. The good Doctor " gets it" , don't ya doc ? Welcome to the LS hens house
EC Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Oh Im loving this..lets me know what you guys are up to. Keep it up.
Legend Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Some of this is pretty spot on and brilliant. Please no comments from women, this should be a guy only topic. Very good so far!
AussieJack Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Oh Im loving this..lets me know what you guys are up to. Keep it up. IT will be our pleasure to do so. Makes the game more even ..Perhaps you need a heads-up ?
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