confused2007 Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 So I'm going to try online dating and I narrowed it down to these two. What do you'll think? Pros and cons of each...? btw 25 year old male if it matters
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I have experience with both. If you're looking to casually date and meet a ton of flakes, go with Match. If you're looking for a serious, long-term relationship, go with eHarmony. Match is easier and cheaper than eHarmony. But IME you get what you put into it.
MayDay Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 There is also a totally free on called 'plentyoffish.com' Worth a shot!
Green Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I would do neither. Go out man and find yerself a woman the old fashioned way, by going and starting random conversations with every hot chick you encounter between now and then. Give the girl the old, "how can you still be single line" but switch up with "I can see how your still single" they won't see it comming, then bam you take em out for drinks and wow them with how interesting purpose you bring to life.
shockandawed Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I have done both as well as Yahoo and honestly, I like the Yahoo one the best. I can make my profile unsearchable and it only appears to the ones I want to contact. I have to initiate the move but it eliminates all the Russians and picture less ones. I am in Regional Sales and not real comfortable with my picture showing up on all the dating sites. I thought e harmony was a complete waste of time and money. The premise is great, but in reality, it is a farce. I had my range at 60 miles, yet, I was getting matches 6-8 hours away..and honestly, the vast majority did not have anything in common with. They didnt have one point of compatibility, let alone 29..lol. I have over 200 closed matches and had 2 actual dates out of it. Follow common sense and don't take any of them too seriously and you may have some fun if nothing else.
johan Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 ...but switch up with "I can see how your still single".. So how do you explain your observation to them? I hope it doesn't involve the words "ugly" or "stupid".
Green Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 So how do you explain your observation to them? I hope it doesn't involve the words "ugly" or "stupid". first off how the heck do I add pictures into my signature... Now to answer your question, I would go with "Join me for a drink and I'll explain exactly what I meant by that, it very well may not be what your thinking"... then during your drinks and conversation try to use something you learned to flatter while answering the question... or have something pre-prepared (redundent yes I know) " When I said I could see how your still single, all I meant (then just something complimentary) like if she was wearing a cute shirt or something say dressed to flirty to be seeing some one... what eva
Author confused2007 Posted March 17, 2008 Author Posted March 17, 2008 I would do neither. Go out man and find yerself a woman the old fashioned way, by going and starting random conversations with every hot chick you encounter between now and then. Give the girl the old, "how can you still be single line" but switch up with "I can see how your still single" they won't see it comming, then bam you take em out for drinks and wow them with how interesting purpose you bring to life. The funny thing is, is that I would usually be the one giving this advice. However, I've run dry and out of options in the small city I live in. Seriously, if I haven't already dated someone here, my good friends have and I don't want to cross those lines. So my problem isn't wholly that of confidence, it's lack of resources for the most part.
NuTuDating Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Yahoo or Match if you're an adult and can search for people of the opposite sex. eHarmony if you want a service that makes that decision for you, spoon feeds you a few matches at a time, and ignores the criteria you've selected.
Legend Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I would do neither. Go out man and find yerself a woman the old fashioned way, by going and starting random conversations with every hot chick you encounter between now and then. Give the girl the old, "how can you still be single line" but switch up with "I can see how your still single" they won't see it comming, then bam you take em out for drinks and wow them with how interesting purpose you bring to life. Pure genius. If I was a chick, i'd be in love with KMT.
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I used E-Harmony and have been with my boyfriend for at least 6 months.
tanbark813 Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Go with Match. eHarmony is more expensive, you can't search profiles, and the women tend to be less attractive (IME, anyway).
Krytie TV Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 My past experience with match is that it's almost like its own subculture. Maybe it's because of the area I live in, but it definitely reaked of "serial daters anonymous". I have to agree with what SG said. I never communicated with so many flakes as I did on Match. But I can't really give eHarmony much praise either. Honestly, put them all on the wall and throw a dart. The one you hit, go with.
Lishy Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I hate the thought of a dating site! I would never join one it always smacks of a bit of desperation to me. Why dont you just get out and meet new girls?
NuTuDating Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I tend to agree with meeting people in public, when possible, as well. I've done both. I tend to find, as a guy, that the women on the dating sites get so much e-mail that they either don't respond anyway, or that they get such a big ego because of all the mail that they receive, that they become extremely selective. I can and have met nicer, more attractive women in public than online. That said, the girl I'm dating now I met online, but she e-mailed me first.
fral945 Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I'm a 28 yr. old male. I've used both, not much luck with either. On Match, talked to a girl who said she was average weight. When I actually met her, she was at least 200 lbs. (if you call that average). Maybe that is nowadays for women, IDK. On Eharmony, they don't use looks as a criteria, seem to think it's not important. I've actually been matched up with some nice girls, but once I saw what they looked like, I saw that most were overweight/obese. I don't care how much our personalities match, I don't ever see myself having a long-term relationship with a woman I am not sexually attracted to (until maybe I'm 80 yrs. old, lol). A dealbreaker for me is a women that can't maintain a normal healthy weight. It's probably worth a shot, but I wouldn't hold your breath. I think it's easier for people to lie or exaggerate vs. real life. It might make it a bit easier to find that "needle in a haystack", but for the most part, it seems not to be much different that real life.
mortensorchid Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Honestly, I've done both in the past, and eHarmony is just a waste of time. Match? Well, you will at least have a chance of getting to meet a person face to face or a phone call, but with eHarmony you ask each other a bunch of ascinine questions until one of you closes the communication because they don't like the way you answered some ridiculous question like "If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?". Search the web a little more and maybe you can find some others that aren't advertised as often as those two. There's plentyoffish.com as well which is free.
spookie Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 (edited) I made a profile on POF, which is free, but the volume of messages I receive daily is ridiculous. Who has time to sort through dozens of emails from losers? Plus I haven't learned how to turn off the annoying instant message feature so as soon as I log on I am immediately bombarded with IMs. I think the male:female ratio on POF is highly in favor of the women. On the other hand, I did randomly go on dates with several guys, and they seemed normal. Good-looking, fairly intelligent, etc. Just not for me. I like my men c r a z y. Edited March 19, 2008 by spookie
Author confused2007 Posted March 19, 2008 Author Posted March 19, 2008 Thanks for all the responses everyone. I still haven't made a decision and I'm shifting toward trashing the idea and exploring in some new places for the females. I'm actually pretty happy with myself right now and being single. I honestly think I just want casual/occassional sex and dates. And yes I'll make sure anyone I sleep with knows that from the start.
Green Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 you guys and your fear of fat women (if you said you didn't like gays they'd call you homophobe)
fral945 Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 you guys and your fear of fat women (if you said you didn't like gays they'd call you homophobe) Hey, there's nothing wrong with a little more cushion for the pushin'. I tend to be very attracted to curvy girls, just not girls with guts, lol. I stay in shape by eating right and exercising, and I don't think it's too much to ask that I have a women who does as well. It's not just about the weight for me, it also says something about a lack of self-control and discipline.
NuTuDating Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Hey, there's nothing wrong with a little more cushion for the pushin'. I tend to be very attracted to curvy girls, just not girls with guts, lol. I stay in shape by eating right and exercising, and I don't think it's too much to ask that I have a women who does as well. It's not just about the weight for me, it also says something about a lack of self-control and discipline. Exactly. I run 3 miles a day 5 days a week to keep it off. I don't expect to date someone who's cut or anything, and I like curves, too, but...
Lishy Posted March 19, 2008 Posted March 19, 2008 Just go and meet girls, dont do the online dating thing. All you will get in insecure and feel unwanbted when some moose gives you the knockback. You sound fit and scrummy so get your cute booty out there!
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