Tracey111 Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 How soon is TOO soon to have sex....met this great guy and we have been hanging out alot....We were sexual on the 3rd date and he is still wonderful however, are there any rules??? I am out of a 6 year relationship and back in the dating scene and don't want to look like a loosy/goosey!..
AdrianaLima Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Well that depends on what type of female you are.
OpenBook Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 You have to play it by ear -- it's different with every guy. But no matter what happens physically, you must remain cool and somewhat detached, reserved in your emotions, until you are absolutely sure he is head over heels madly in love with you. And I'm not talking about the initial infatuation. I'm talking about when he says the "L" word to you (as in, "I love you, Tracey111")... when you have absolutely no doubt about his intentions toward you... when he is consistently going out of his way to make it abundantly clear that you are IT for him. It's always better when the guy takes all the risks in the beginning.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 You have to play it by ear -- it's different with every guy. But no matter what happens physically, you must remain cool and somewhat detached, reserved in your emotions, until you are absolutely sure he is head over heels madly in love with you. And I'm not talking about the initial infatuation. I'm talking about when he says the "L" word to you (as in, "I love you, Tracey111")... when you have absolutely no doubt about his intentions toward you... when he is consistently going out of his way to make it abundantly clear that you are IT for him. It's always better when the guy takes all the risks in the beginning. Absolutely. I think it's important for you to see whether you want the relationship to carry on as a fling or to become something more significant. A man generally categorizes a female in into types: booty-call and potential date material. Generally girls who fall into boot-call category are promiscuous, overly flirtatious and sends the signal that they'll sleep with anyone who shows them a bit of interest. Potential date material are more confident females, who carries themselves off with a tone of high self esteem and appear as someone the boy will see himself bringing home to meet the parents. Therefore it's best to consider how long you've been seeing this guy and whether he'll invest in you for the long term. Should you just want to sleep with the guy just for the sex, then I suppose anytime will do, but he'll lose respect for you because you've given yourself up too soon and all the chase has been pushed aside. Remember men are reminescent of ancient hunters, and they prefer the chase to the final outcome.
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