Author Little Shy Posted March 18, 2008 Author Posted March 18, 2008 Hey Julliebijoux, Thanks for your advice, both your posts have helped. There is an update here. So I posted last night that he had sent that text "hey You" back. So, as planned I did not respond last night, but sent a text this a.m. I told him sorry I did not get back to him last night, and how was he feeling? He said he was still a little sick, but he was going to try & go work out today. Then,"and what were you doing all weekend? Partying it up sweetheart?" then a series of very nice texts back & forth, until we ended up telling each other we missed each other, and should try & see each other later this week when he is fully recovered & I've got some work crap handled. So I think my dumb but necessarily little game tactic of not returning his text until the next day worked in my favor. Now I plan on trying to just frickin stay calm at all costs (and also busy). I think he is finally on the end of the flu train, and is being very sweet & complimentary again (finishing the texting this a.m. with goodbye beautiful xoxoxox). So, I'll just hope there will be follow through and we will see each other later this week as planned. I really freaked the heck out. Lesson learned here.
juliebijoux Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 I'm glad it is worked out:) That flu can really knock someone out, but it truly caused me to go craaazy and I wasn't even actually sick.
OpenBook Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 So I think my dumb but necessarily little game tactic of not returning his text until the next day worked in my favor. Now I plan on trying to just frickin stay calm at all costs (and also busy)... I really freaked the heck out. Lesson learned here. Yes, unfortunately it is sometimes necessary to play those "dumb little games." I think guys just want to make sure you're not going to become a succubus or something. And that's the best way to show them... I'm glad it worked out! He does seem to really like you! I agree that your best bet is to stay calm and busy. Actually, that's a good way to be regardless of him!
Advocate's Devilette Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Personally I don't think this is going anywhere. He is just not that into you. A guy who is absolutely crazy about you doesn't text all the time, he is dying to hear your voice everyday at least, if he can't see you. He is over his little illness (which was not an excuse for his lack of contact.) He is simply horny now and is back to the "hey beautiful" and you are taking it as you have a major relationship going. Sorry, hon, you don't. He is going to pull the disappearing act very soon, probably right after you give it up to him a few more times and he's had his sexual release.
Kamille Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Personally I don't think this is going anywhere. He is just not that into you. A guy who is absolutely crazy about you doesn't text all the time, he is dying to hear your voice everyday at least, if he can't see you. He is over his little illness (which was not an excuse for his lack of contact.) He is simply horny now and is back to the "hey beautiful" and you are taking it as you have a major relationship going. Sorry, hon, you don't. He is going to pull the disappearing act very soon, probably right after you give it up to him a few more times and he's had his sexual release. I'm amazed that you registered just to piss on someone's parade Advocate devilette. And I think what you just wrote is bull****. Only insecure people need the type of 'into you' reassurance you describe, and also overromanticized what is but a budding relationship. No matter how panicked she is, Little Shy sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders.
Advocate's Devilette Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Sorry but I'm not going to sprinkle sunshine, I am being honest. He really doesn't sound that crazy about her and the texting is bull****. Why doesn't he call her? Why does he have time to wax poetic on myspace but not to call this woman? I stand by what I wrote. She'll be here in a couple weeks after he's blown her off again.
Author Little Shy Posted March 18, 2008 Author Posted March 18, 2008 Thanks Kamille, I wasn't really going to listen to some first time poster coming in to blast. I have this strange feeling this person is 23 yrs old or less. Thanks for the negative vibes anyway, whoever you are. Thanks everyone else for helping me through my freak out. Wish me luck, as I will keep all posted. And HAPPY ST.PATRICK'S DAY ALL!!!!!!!!!
Star Gazer Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Keep us posted! It's this anxiety stage that's the worst! Hopefully you'll have an answer either which way soon...
Advocate's Devilette Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 When a guy is really crazy about you, there is no anxiety stage.
Author Little Shy Posted March 19, 2008 Author Posted March 19, 2008 Ok, so apparently my "sick boy" is totally well again. We are now back to the obsessive texting & calling on his part. Last night I was feeling a little sick (not like flu, just super icky) and he told me he would be happy to come over & take care of me if I needed it. Also that he really misses me & can't wait to see me again We will see as I am seeing him this week, I'm going to make him wait until the weekend so I can still come down from my freak out & bad trip & take care of work. It seems like he is back to his reliable-attentitive behavior pre-sickness. So we will see. Still I will try & precede with caution & without a tremendous amount of expectation, as many here advised, to not put too many hopes into a new affair with early sexual encounter. I will keep all posted, and once again, thanks for all the advice for now!
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