Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I've been dating this lady (a supermarket cashier) since shorty after Valentine's Day. It's pretty much been mind blowing sex 3 or 4 times a week. Usually my place, sometimes hers. With the costs of going out being so high I can't complain. But she is too controling. Our first date revolved around her getting a tattoo. It turned me on then but didn't after that. Still she insists that I kiss her shoulder tattoo when affections commence. When I protest she says " I guess you don't want to get laid tonight" For our 3rd date she told me to buy certain foods so she could cook us her favorite meal, @ my place. It's a pasta/chicken dish. I could complain about chickem prices but it's still cheaper than going out. She insisted that I watch her cook so I'd know how to prepare the meal in the future. I make us this meal at least once a week as directed. Last week I made it with pasta elbows (on sale) instead of the pasta bowties she prefers. She finished the meal, said it was good, then walked out. No Sex! I called her and she said "next time make it my way and you might get laid". The sex has been great. After sex she keeps asking me if I enjoyed it. She is very confident and doesn't need reassurance. When I answer "yes" or "it was great" she usually says something like "Yes you sure did" or " you loved it" Then she asks again! After answering the first 6 or 7 times I tried not answering. She said "if you ever want to get laid again you'll answer the question". Several days ago she called to say she'd be at my place in a few hours...at 7PM. I offered that 7:30 would be better for me. I was told to be ready at 7 if I wanted to get laid. So I buy the food, do the cooking, kiss the tattoo, and answer her endless post-sex questions. She picks the menu, and sets the time. I'm not thrilled at all that, but the sex is great and I haven't yet found another lady...yet. She's quick to lightly poke and hit me...she calls it the "stick" in her "carrot(sex) and stick method" of dealing with me. How much crap is too much to take? mind you the sex is good
garnet Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Your post made me laugh. No offense, but she sounds like an oddball. I can't imagine anyone acting in such a ridiculous way. Great sex can only get you so far when no real feelings are involved. I predict her behavior will only get worse.
2sunny Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 wow - what a guy will do to get some action... i had no idea it was so bad for men! even if i were a man - i would never think of putting up with that crap from her.
Kamille Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Last week I made it with pasta elbows (on sale) instead of the pasta bowties she prefers. She finished the meal, said it was good, then walked out. No Sex! I called her and she said "next time make it my way and you might get laid". :lmao: That's quite Skinner-Pavlov behavioural as a training technique. Seriously, the sex must out of this world but those kind of antics would get to me after awhile.
Trialbyfire Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 This sounds like a mutual use thing. Why are you complaining?
Storyrider Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 If you want to date a dominatrix, I say continue.
blind_otter Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I agree with TBF. This sounds like the makings of some kind of mutual dom/sub relationship. If you don't like it, endure a few sexless nights. Maybe she will respond to some of her own treatment?
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I'll never look at a supermarket clerk the same way again
Kamille Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I'll never look at a supermarket clerk the same way again Always remember to ask: how would you react if I substituted elbow macaroni for bowtie pasta in a recipe you taught me?
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Yes, mistress, whatever you request, mistress..... I'm married, so I've been out of boot camp for some time now
Author Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 You're in training OP. Hope you like boot camp Trained to cook one meal and one meal only. I can live with that. ANY sex would be reward enough, this is great sex.
Author Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 I agree with TBF. This sounds like the makings of some kind of mutual dom/sub relationship. If you don't like it, endure a few sexless nights. Maybe she will respond to some of her own treatment? It's hard to turn down sex. But you have a point, she is enjoying the sex too.
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Trained to cook one meal and one meal only. I can live with that. ANY sex would be reward enough, this is great sex. So I buy the food, do the cooking, kiss the tattoo, and answer her endless post-sex questions. She picks the menu, and sets the time. OK, whatever floats your sperm!
Author Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 She'll be here in 5 hours. I admit that I am cooking the meal. I'll do whatever till I've had the sex. Then maybe I'll make a stand on answering her endless unitopic questions. Maybe I'll keep asking her if she liked it and give her a taste of her own medicine. But the ultimate goal is to keep having sex.
Author Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 :lmao: That's quite Skinner-Pavlov behavioural as a training technique. Seriously, the sex must out of this world but those kind of antics would get to me after awhile. ANY sex would do. The antics are getting to me. I hope to roll her back some or at least prevent an increase in her methods.
Author Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 ....Great sex can only get you so far when no real feelings are involved That's far enough for me:lmao:
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Don't you love it when the little head does all the thinking? :D
Lonestar Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Hahahahahaha Tell us the nun story again. I was lurking and I couldn't resist a response to this.
sb129 Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Goldpile- your whole R revolves around a specific pasta dish, a tattoo, and the resultant great sex? Lol. Man cannot live by "pasta" alone... As Zack de la Rocha from Rage Against the Machine said- "You got to take the power back..."
Replicant Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 But the ultimate goal is to keep having sex. Well in that case you've got it made...Just contact some dude on a chicken farm and barter over raising a select batch for quick turn around on discount growth hormones. Then just go to the source of those pasta bow ties and get a years worth on volume discount, what does it matter if they go stale. That's not your style to worry about expiry dates.
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 It's hard to turn down sex. But you have a point, she is enjoying the sex too. You are pathetic Gold a$$ - You are a living breathing example of what is wrong with guys today. You are "p*ssy whipped " in the extreme. YOu stopped being a MAN when you placed sex as a higher priority that RESPECT. SHe is completely in control of you and your 'neediness' is YOUR contribution to this mess, and that will be your downfall. Eventually she will DUMP you. WHY ? BEcause she needs control more that she needs sex. She is getting all the control that she needs. and that is the rub. To her, you will soon become like one of those old computer games that you can win EVERY time. Eventually you just stop playing the game coz it is NO challenge and therefore no fun. I will say this to ALL you guys - NEVER place sex higher than respect . THis is what you should have done- (all men, listen to this )- at the first sign of significant disrespect STOP HAVING SEX with a woman and walk away.. If you all want to understand this strategy I will explain it in another post . Sex is easy to get, but respect is not. DO YOU GET IT ?
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Affirmative. MC is defining this for me. I've had to completely reinvent my personality. It's never too late for growth
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