MPNSTsurvivor Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I am not sure where to begin. I try to look for signs to see if she really loves me or just wants to be friends. I have known her for a long time and though she is younger than me, I feel I have grown on her and I am deeply in love with her. She tells me every time how much she loves me and misses me. She tells me how we need to hang out. We enjoy the same things and even had people tell us we where a cute couple or a waitress telling her shes a lucky girl o have me. She did blush after that and smiled. I was recently diagnosed with cancer and had to sell everything I own to pay the bills. I told her if she didn't mind me tagging along if I could have her friends pick me up and hang out with them. She said it's not tagging along and she loves hanging out with me. She said when she gets a car she will pick me up and take me out. We have always gotten along and never fight and never disagree. I get along great with her parents and hang out with them also. I don't want to ruin a friendship but I feel this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I am kind of shy and am usually afraid to confront women. I kind of hinted to her mother the other day and said I wanted to be with her daughter. She is OK with it as she loves me like a son. I am extremely close to them. I am waiting till marriage for sex and she is also, we are both good Christians. I want to tell her every day that I want a relationship but can never do it because if in fact she says she loves me but it's just as friends, I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. What is the best way to ask her without being too forward? Does anyone feel that she is the one or can you help me figure out if she is waiting for me to ask her out? What are some signs I might be missing that it's just a friend thing or a love thing? Thanks in advance.
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Well one...does she tell all her male friends that "I love you"? IME, from my female friends, that's pretty rare. Only those I was very close to and helped through and shared a lot of life experiences ever said that to me (as a platonic friend). Sorry to hear about your diagnosis You sound young...that sucks... I would definitely ask her out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. My bet is she says yes
Author MPNSTsurvivor Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 Well one...does she tell all her male friends that "I love you"? IME, from my female friends, that's pretty rare. Only those I was very close to and helped through and shared a lot of life experiences ever said that to me (as a platonic friend). Sorry to hear about your diagnosis You sound young...that sucks... I would definitely ask her out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. My bet is she says yes I don't think she tells all her male friends that, maby a few. It sounds different and more sincere when she says i love you to me though. I am 31yrs old so yes I am young. She usually gives me a big kiss on the cheek says I love you and gives me a big tight hug and usually holds it for a bit. Not a quick hug or a pat on the back. I really don't have anything to lose because we won't lose a friendship over it. I do hope she says yes, she is perfect in every way.
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