Mustang1984 Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I have aways had a hard time making friends and relating to my pears. I am in my early 20's and work in an air traffic control facility which at the moment is about 70% older people and 30% younger people my age. I get along extremly well with the older people and they all love me I can tell. The problem is that my personality seems to fit way btter with them but I need young people to hang out with. All the older people are in their early to late 50's and will be retireing very soon. All of the young people at my facility just about all went to the same college and all know each other. I went to a midwest college and dont know any of them. Now I have spoken to all of them and talk to them at work every day a little bit. The problem is that they are all very close and most new each other before comming to our facility. I have tried to make friends with them and talk to them and while they dont seem to dislike me, they never include me in their activites outside of work no matter how much I talk and relate to them at work. There is only one guy who at work who invites me to do things every once in a while with the young group. When I hang out with them I get along fine with them yet I still never get invited to do things by anyone else. I moved far from home for this job and after being here almost a year I still have no real close friends and I am alone most of the time. I am not sure if they see me as not a good fit to hang out with them or what. Should I just start looking outside work for friends and just give up on work since it seems I will only be seen as a fellow co-worker and not a friend to my pears at work? Id apprecite any suggestions.
mysocalledlife Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I would definitely look to make some friends outside of work - do things that you enjoy, especially things that involve other people. What are your interests? Hobbies, etc.? I wouldn't be surprised if once you make a few friends outside of work that you find you make a few friends at work.
Green Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 When I move to a new place it usualy takes me atleast 8 months to start making good friends. Usualy I make friends out of work. I got really lucky with my last job and made alot of good friends at work. At my new job its kind of clickish, and I didn't get invited to some stuff and then I complained to people about how I didn't get invited, and what do you know I actualy started getting invited to everything. Although for a woman it might not be a good tactic to complain to them about not being invited...
Immortalone Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 What about you putting something together and inviting them along? Not for sure what every one would be into but I bet you can come up with something. Get some type of activity and invite 5 or 6 of them to go along. Take the first step with them and see if that helps.
annarbor Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Hmmm... tough situation. I always have trouble making friends at work too but its especially difficult given their demographic varies so much from your own. Maybe try pursuing another avenue too. Like take an exercise class or something. I met a very good friend of mine at a yoga class.
Ping Posted March 18, 2008 Posted March 18, 2008 Life is not easy if you have no friend around you. So, if it is possible, you can seek for a new job. Maybe, you will find your group.
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