wing81 Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 A fairly new co-worker and I have been hanging out a lot lately. We met about 4 months ago and seem to be getting closer to each other. We pick on and tease each other and whenever we have the weekend free we seem to spend most of the time together. Recently I went out of town and gave her a key so she could take care of my dog while I was away. I haven't asked for it back but at the same time she hasn't offered to give it back. It does make it convenient when I can't walk my dog. The other weekend we went out with another friend and everyone came back to my place. Even though plenty of room was available to crash she chose to sleep on the couch with me. I sometimes think that it may be that I am the one initiating contact but know that isn't the case. It seems like we are going through the motions of dating with the exception of being intimate. Are we basically dating or very close friends?
carhill Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Ask her out to dinner on a weekend and if she says yes, you're dating BTW, sex doesn't define dating, though I'm sure many would disagree Have fun!
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 (edited) . I sometimes think that it may be that I am the one initiating contact but know that isn't the case. It seems like we are going through the motions of dating with the exception of being intimate. Are we basically dating or very close friends? You are the "male" - it is your job to "initate " , not hers . THis is how it works - write the following on your fridge and read it out loud every day..." Women create openings and men walk forward through them " .. She is giving you some serious "buying " signals and you are too clueless to read the radar. She is spending time with you because she digs you -and she wants MORE, so make it happen IF you want to deveop this deal into a dating situation. Any woman who slept with me on my couch would not be still on the couch in the morning..She would be smiling and sitting up in MY bed and eating eggs benedict and fresh OJ that I served her . Some of you guys really need help to act like masculine, assertive men again . I think I may be getting to you just in time. MEN !!-quit hiding your positive masculinity. Would Clark Gable or Frank Sinatra have slept on his couch with a woman ? You think even Brad Pitt slept on his couch with A. Jolie ?? Listen ! women who overnight at your place expect to be "bleeped." That is why they are there - duh ! Edited March 16, 2008 by AussieJack
Green Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 AussiJack made some good points. I don't think you necesarily have to have sex with her, but you should have tried Kissing her or something. You may have already screwed things up, but you need to make a move
mortensorchid Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 If you like her enough to do so, ask her out to dinner or something. Tell her that she's still holding onto your key from the weekend you were out of town, maybe she just forgot and is holding onto it with the hopes that you will not ask for it back. Be honest. If you like her that way, do something about it. If you are really just friends, then say that as well. Also, it's not a good idea to date someone from your office. Just an FYI ...
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