Little Shy Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I am so fearful/frustrated! I met this guy 2 weeks ago, and right out the gate he has been nothing but attentive & sweet to me. He usually text 5-10 times a day, & calls once or twice, (he's a big text msg guy). Our little start up dating relationship has been nothing but compliments, dates, sincerity & so forth, up until now that is. I last saw him on Monday morning after he spent the night (yes, we have slept together several times already) and he said he felt a sickness coming on. The next couple of days he was still texting me, all be it less, and telling me he was really starting to feel fiercely ill, but he still had to make it to work, etc. Thursday I did not hear from him, so Friday early, I called him, and he sounded TERRIBLE. He said he felt awful all over. I asked him if there was anything I could do for him, and he said "no, I can't really think of anything, & I'd probably just get you sick". I asked him if he was the type of person that wanted someone by their side while sick, or someone that just wants to bear through it alone. He said yeah, pretty much I just gotta get through this (alone). He told me thank you for checking in on him though. He told me that aside from a little mandatory work this weekend, he was just going to douse himself with Nyquil & sleep. Later that day, I texted him because I knew he was at work, and I felt bad for him, & I said "I hope you are managing OK at work, & I hope you kick this thing soon, also because I miss you" To which he responded, ":)Thank you sweetie..." I don't know if I should call him again to check in or what?? I never get sick, so I can't really tell if when you have the flu it puts you out that much that you stop calling people? After we parted ways on Monday, before he got really ill, he texted me the next day or so saying he really enjoys my company & looks forward to seeing me again. Later that day, he texted me, "good nite beautiful girl!" Thats about the best I've heard from him since Tuesday unless I initiate anything. 1st off I do know he is super sick to be sure. There is a massive flu going around town, & people have been sick with it for a week or more. It just seems so wierd, sick or not, that I would go from 5-10 texts & a call or two a day to practically nothing? What should I do? I don't know what to think.
melodymatters Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 When I'm sick, I hate all of humanity ! Don't bug him, if he's had a change of heart about you, you will find out soon enough, but most likely he is just feeling very awful and anti social !
Crestfallen_KH Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 (edited) Yep, sounds like he's exactly what he says he is - really sick. Not only could you tell when he called, but he still talked to you and responded to your texts, even though he wanted to be left alone. I would maybe shoot a "Hey, hope you're doing ok, and let me know if you need anything" text ONCE a day until you hear from him again. Anymore than that, you might come across as needy or insecure. He told you what he preferred (being left alone) so show that you heard and respect him by honoring that. When I'm sick, I not only feel terrible, but I'm very grumpy and anti-social, particularly if I still have to go to work. He's probably doing you a favor by not exposing you to his germs or mood. Doesn't sound like much to be worried about here. Edited March 16, 2008 by Crestfallen_KH Clarity
OpenBook Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 OMG! Don't do anything! You've already done more than enough! He's into you -- those lovely texts from him (!!), him letting you know how he was feeling,... Don't blow it! Leave him alone and let him get better! (I just got over that stuff. It took 2 weeks before I was remotely feeling like myself again. It kicks your @ss all over town!) He'll be back around. They always do, IF YOU LEAVE THEM ALONE! This is the "Rubber Band" theory that John Gray talks about in "Men Are From Mars etc." Men retreat, then advance again. It's the way they handle getting to know a girl they really dig. Don't let it rattle you. In his case, he has an especially good excuse - he's sick!!
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Haven't you heard of Man Flu? If I was him, I'd bang my head against a wall if I read your post. He's so into you, it's blatantly obvious.
Author Little Shy Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 Thanks for the advise everyone. I think I border on being a bit paranoid, because it seems that in the past couple of years I have had a lot of guys show a ton of interest in me really quickly then do a "Houdini Man" and disappear as quick as they come into my life. And, this happens wether or not sex is involved. I decided to post for opinion today because I was losing my mind overanalyzing it. Also, a man I had just met at a friends house last night gave me very contrary advice to what I am hearing today. When I told him the situation, he looked at me very concerned & said, "Well, did he offer for you to come take care of him?" And then he told me, "I would give him 2 more days, and if you haven't heard from him, move on."
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