borntorun Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Female advice would be appreciated, cause I swear I dont understand this girl. Short version: She's my cousins friend. known her for several years, always liked her, always told that she likes me. Last August she invited me to a bar, then invited me to her house where we proceeded to make out. I stopped it before it went any further because I wasnt sure what this meant to her and I wanted something more than a one night thing. After that I asked her whst she was up to that weekend, she was going to PA with some friends. After that I didnt hear much from her. I started seeing another girl about 4 weeks after which I heard made girl #1 mad. Then she started seeing someone which made me mad. I broke up w/ girl number 2 in early december, she broke up w/ her guy in January. After I broke up w/ girl #2 I emailed #1 and told her how I felt. She said my timing sucked and that she did like me, but she was sseing someone. Shortly after she broke up w/ her guy, me , my cousin and her went to a club, had a good time and it seemed like we were connecting again (lots of eye contact and smiling while she was dancing on the stage) That week i emailed her and asked her if she wanted to do something. She said to call her later in the week when she knew what her schedule was. Then that weekend she lost both her jobs and got into a rut. She called me and apologized for not getting back to me and that she wasnt avoiding me. We went iceskating about 3 weeks ago, and to a bar afterward. Again w/ my cousin. There was a wedding that she supposed to go with me last weekend but bailed at the last minute because she said I never formally asked her (long story) . I talked to her last sunday for a few minutes and she said she want mad at me. She then texted me today about tanning (we both tan) and said she heard (from my cousin) that had some good prospects at the tanning place (I mentioned to my cousin that there was a cute blonde chick there) I wrote back that maybe I was the prospect and she responded "maybe u r". Will someone please help me out here. I dont know what to do with this girl. I like her a lot but I feel like I shouldnt have to keep asking her out since she already knows how I feel. I know she s been going through a rough time having lost her jobs and being broke but I told her that I would treat. Anyone have any input???
kalashnikov Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 so you only go out just to show how you feel about her? whats so wrong about asking her out?
Obama08 Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 (edited) I stopped it before it went any further because I wasnt sure what this meant to her and I wanted something more than a one night thing. Oops. There's your problem. Shot yourself in the foot man. You've got an uphill battle ahead of you. Sorry Edited March 17, 2008 by Obama08
Author borntorun Posted March 18, 2008 Author Posted March 18, 2008 so you only go out just to show how you feel about her? whats so wrong about asking her out? I asked her out about 4 weeks ago, and I think she was up for it, but that week (as my luck would have it) she lost both her jobs and got into a slump. She called me back a few days after I asked her and said she wasnt avoiding me and explained to me what was going on.
Author borntorun Posted March 18, 2008 Author Posted March 18, 2008 Oops. There's your problem. Shot yourself in the foot man. You've got an uphill battle ahead of you. Sorry I agree, but my intentions were good, and I dont think she held it against me. What hurt me was about 4 weeks after that incident I staerted seeing someone else, only because I thought nothing was happening between us. Apparently she thought differently. Ive known her for a few years (her and my cousin went to high school together) and there always has been this weird tension between us that I never understood. I like her, and have always been told that she likes me. We just went out for St. Pattys day with my cousin and her husband, and she got drunk (but not passed out wasted) and kept coming up to me kissing me (closed mouth) and just very touchy feely. When she left and got a ride from her friend she kissed me goodbye (again, on the mouth closed lip) and called me swweety. Saw her the next day at my cousins house, neither opf them were feeling great, but nothing happened or was said that eould lead me to believe that something was going on. But she wasnt feeling well at all. I'm just frustrated with the situation and frankly am pretty confused
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