Catwomannn Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 My boyfriend's my space page has his status listed as "single" even though we have been dating for 7 months ---should I ask him about it? I am just picking nits here or should I just ignore it????? BTW...He does not have any recent posts from any females on his page (other than some of his customers) . Recent meaning the past 4 months...
SeraBella Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 You are nit-picking. Some people don't even THINK about that status, and men make up the majority of those people. Pick your battles. This seems like a silly one to pick.
Kamille Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 You are nit-picking. Some people don't even THINK about that status, and men make up the majority of those people. Pick your battles. This seems like a silly one to pick. It all depends on your personnality. I would bring it up with my boyfriend - just to make sure it doesn't get to a point where it actually does bother me. I would try to bring it up as honestly as possible as in: "Listen, I was on your myspace the other and I noticed that your status says single... I didn't really know what to think about it." I believe that a successful relationship is about successful communication. That way, battles never feel like battles.
Kamille Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I kinda thought so..... we posted at the same time... I have a differing opinion.
melodymatters Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 While I agree that it is most likely a " guy thing" oversight, I too would mention it quite calmly.
dreamergrl Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 My ex did that, only switched from in a relationship to single - a little bit different. Then I found out he was asking girls for the numbers and crap if things in our relationship got a bit difficult. I can understand why it's irratating, but only really think it's a big deal if he gives you a reason not to trust him. If it bothers you a lot, just make a joke about it, or something and see what he says. If he's never had it as in a relationship he prolly doesn't even realize that it's like that or thought to change it.
Star Gazer Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 My ex never changed his status either. In retrospect I can see how he was never really invested in our relationship, otherwise it would have mattered to him to mark himself as unavailable.
whichwayisup Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Chances are he just left it as single and didn't think. If he doesn't use his account much, then don't worry about it. But, if he does check on occasion, just come right out and tell him to change his status. Don't make a big deal of it unless he says he won't change it.
carhill Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Heck, one of my female friends' BF had "Single" on his MySpace page and they've been together nearly 9 years. She finally went in and changed it
xpaperxcutx Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 It's a ridiculous issue you brought up here. why are you letting a stupid status info on myspace validate your relationship? It's really a waste of time to even think on it. Unless you're really insecure about your relationship, then by all means bring it up.
Kamille Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 It's a ridiculous issue you brought up here. why are you letting a stupid status info on myspace validate your relationship? It's really a waste of time to even think on it. Unless you're really insecure about your relationship, then by all means bring it up. See, I don't think bringing stuff up because you're insecure is the way to go, not at all. Yet, I think it is odd that his status on myspace is set to single. If you wonder about something, why not ask? I think keeping stuff in for fear of appearing insecure or needy is what actually makes people insecure and needy. We are each responsible for our own well-being in relationships. If something bothers you, then it is up to you to resolve it.
lovesparis Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 myspace drama at it's finest. if it bothers you, send him a msg via myspace and say that you noticed he was still single and would he change it please the next time he signs on?
Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Using another ID, pose as another woman and ask him if he's single. His response will tell you all you need to know
Taramere Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 See, I don't think bringing stuff up because you're insecure is the way to go, not at all. Yet, I think it is odd that his status on myspace is set to single. If you wonder about something, why not ask? I think keeping stuff in for fear of appearing insecure or needy is what actually makes people insecure and needy. We are each responsible for our own well-being in relationships. If something bothers you, then it is up to you to resolve it. I agree. Bringing up something like that really need not be a major deal or some kind of battle, and I don't know why people are acting as if it is. There's more unnecessary drama and nit-picking involved in throwing out accusations of neediness/insecurity in response to such a simple question, than there is about the question itself.
nitabean Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Oh the dreaded my space, my bf still shows his as single too but I am his top friend...lol. My pick is him and I and since that the comments from other woman have stopped. I stay mindful but dont push the issue.
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