Tincup Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 There is a new women that I work with. Both of us are sort of quiet, and coming out of bad marriages. Well after talking for a bit everyday for a few weeks I find out that she was good friends with my X from grade school (30 years ago..). She has only seen my X once in the last 10 years and that was a chance meeting. Anyway we get along very well and have a lot in common. She is much different than anyone that I have ever been interested in. I have always tended to go for women that are very different from me personality wise. This women is much more like me personality wise. Okay I am getting to my question..I asked her to go to dinner after work a few days ago. She said yes and we were to go the next evening. Then the next morning she came up to me and said that she did not think dinner was a good idea because she was good friends with my X. Let me add that I live about a mile from my X and we have kids so if I did start dating this women she would see my X several times a week. I don't really understand, she is either blowing me off or really likes me and is just afraid. Why did she say yes at first and then change her mind. What do you all think?
AussieJack Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I don't really understand, she is either blowing me off or really likes me and is just afraid. Why did she say yes at first and then change her mind. What do you all think? You don't understand women much do you ? Their social network is HUGELY important to them it is like a safety net. Women like to be liked by everyone. They are approval seekers extraordinaire. Women are creatures of COMMUNITY, whereas men are creatures of independence. THis woman pretty well told you the truth- she is really telling you that she is avoiding the possibilty of future conflict with your EX who MAY get crazy jealous if you date her. Even if you assure her that you and your wife are long parted, I doubt whether this lady will date you and take the chance that this MAY inflame your ex. I know this sounds lame and weak to us men, BUT women avoid conflict because they think that it threatens their relationships with others.
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