Sudgary Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Ok, there is a girl I've had a crush on now for about a good month and about a week ago i actually let her know that i had a crush on her. I have a good friend who is kind of like a messenger for her and I he helps me out and I help him out.. anyways the same day i let her in on who was crushing her my friend comes back and lets me know that she likes me (and blah blah blah blah).. the next day we exchanged phone numbers so we could get to know each other better.. but there is only one problem guys.. SHE WONT FREAKIN TALK!!!!!! I mean I know some people are shy but this is ridiculous, folks, I mean I was anxious when I went up to her and let her in on the news even when I had absolutely nothing to say. I told her that if she needed anything or wanted to talk about anything that she could call me and we'd talk; she doesn't.. I said something to my friend the other day I said, "Hey dude, you DID say that she likes me and would like to talk, right?" and he says, "Yes." and I'm like, "Ok, well why isn't she talking to me? Just the other day she practically lapped me in the hallway without saying hi." He said, "Well, she said that she didn't know you and she doesn't know what to say to you when she sees you." So I'm like OK, what can I do to let her know that she can talk about anything with me? What can I do to help take down that curtain of anxiety that is impeding our communication? Thats where I need your help guys!! I'm sorry I made this so long to read, I just wanted to provide a good mental picture of whats going on. Thank you guys. Any feedback is much appreciated.
carhill Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Ask her if she wants to go out for a burger and to nod her head if it's OK If she really does like you, for some people, this makes them all tongue-tied or they think what they're going to say is stupid. I assume she talks fine to your friend. Maybe he should go out with her Seriously, if you like other aspects about her (I assume you do), give it a few weeks of effort. You're young, life is long; be patient....
xpaperxcutx Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Are you guys close friends, or just friends that just say hi occasionally in the hallway? It seems you guys are still at that stage of awkwardness, at least she is, in regards to actually starting conversations. You have to initiate contact then. Start with casual questions, ie, how she's been, how was so and so's class, what music does she like, etc... try to create a common point of interest between the two of you. Then she'll open herself up to you more.
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