broken990 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Right, I need some advice. I'm 21 and this girl that I am in love with is 20. We went out from November last year but due to circumstances we didn't see each other for most of December and some of January. In that time she went off me and she called it off. We got back together a few weeks later only to call it off after a week. Then I made the mistake of begging, pleading, reasoning etc and now she is with this other guy, but it doesn't sound like your average rebound. I'm at University and the Easter holidays start tomorrow so I emailed her a few days ago if she wanted to meet up and say goodbye. We did and then her best friend invited me to a house party for the following night that she was also going to. I went and I played it calm and collected and I was funny and generally rather good. This new guy, who is only just 19, was drunk and completely flipped out (not because of me) but due to alcohol. He is a bit of a posh snob who has led a bit of a sheltered life but my ex says she is smitten with him. I IMed her today (although she initiated contat) and she said they talked about his behaviour and said their realtionship is better than ever (should I believe that?). However I don't think he is right for her, especially with his level of maturity. Then today, a bit out of the blue, she invited me to her place, just the two of us and to watch an anime film. We didn't say much but it was just us two and I don't know what to read into the situation. Does it sound like she is into me again or that she just wants to become friends? Surely if she wanted to be just friends she would have invited other people to watch this film. We only dated for a couple of months but our break up didn't end badly, she just went off me due to circumstances. Yet I really love her and want her back, although I am aware that if I focus all my energy then that isn't healthy. I am moving on with my life but I really want her to be a part of it. I don't want to do anything to mess around with their relationship either but I think, not that it is my position to say, that this other guy is very wrong for her. Any advice?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 If she's infatuated with this other guy, it's truly none of your business to express your concerns. She will mostly likely say you're jealous and trying to worm your way back into her life. Let her be. The only way for a person to truly see the problems they are in is for them to realize it was there in the first place. She's blinded by her infatuation and there's truly nothing you can do. I absolutely do not think you're in love with her. You're just infatuated with her yourself because she broke it off with you for another guy. Truly an ego crusher. Just focus on yourself. You definitely do not want a girl that's already taken. Stay friends, she sees you as such.
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