melissa_330 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 My b/f of 2 yrs just recently told me that he needed to be alone for a while meanwhile he figures out whether he wants to be with me or not. He also mentuioned that he doenst know whether its a break or a break up and he ll let me know as time passes by.He said he loves me but he doesnt know if we should be together because we dont get along. Which i think is alie because the only time we argue is when i feel i annoy him which is most of the time. This is very hard for me because this is the third time in a yr he has called for a "alone time" and i truly love him. I noticed things changing once he turned 21 because before that everything seemed fine. Then slowly i began to realize everything annoyed him, and he always prefered to hang out as a couple with other ppl.well he called for alone time sunday nite and i asked him tuesday if we can still talk to each other he replied in a text message no and he ll let me know on whether the break was perminent as time goes by. I didnt have any contact with him until thursday nite when texted me asking me how i am and i said im good. then 10 mins later he calls and i told him i was in the shower and ill call him back. half an hour later i call him and he starts asking me how i been?where am i heading to? and what he has done this week...this lasted about an hour and then he says ok well call me back later. I get home at 11 and wasnt going to call him until 12am but he called me at 11 and i talked for about 15 minutes and themn said i was going to bed he ended with telling me to call him whenever.....what is it that he wants?
malaclypse Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 My b/f of 2 yrs just recently told me that he needed to be alone for a while meanwhile he figures out whether he wants to be with me or not. He also mentuioned that he doenst know whether its a break or a break up and he ll let me know as time passes by.He said he loves me but he doesnt know if we should be together because we dont get along. Which i think is alie because the only time we argue is when i feel i annoy him which is most of the time. This is very hard for me because this is the third time in a yr he has called for a "alone time" and i truly love him. I noticed things changing once he turned 21 because before that everything seemed fine. Then slowly i began to realize everything annoyed him, and he always prefered to hang out as a couple with other ppl.well he called for alone time sunday nite and i asked him tuesday if we can still talk to each other he replied in a text message no and he ll let me know on whether the break was perminent as time goes by. I didnt have any contact with him until thursday nite when texted me asking me how i am and i said im good. then 10 mins later he calls and i told him i was in the shower and ill call him back. half an hour later i call him and he starts asking me how i been?where am i heading to? and what he has done this week...this lasted about an hour and then he says ok well call me back later. I get home at 11 and wasnt going to call him until 12am but he called me at 11 and i talked for about 15 minutes and themn said i was going to bed he ended with telling me to call him whenever.....what is it that he wants? He wants to make sure you're available when he feels like contact. Don't let him treat you like a doormat.
thornfield Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I remember the day when I could do no wrong with my ex-wife and then a few months into our marriage everything I did annoyed her. She basically did not want to be our relationship anymore and this was how she made it known. What he wants? Who really knows? I say keep contact to a minimum, calls short, and date some new guys just to see what’s out there. Give yourself some time too! Personally if this is the third “alone” time – its three strikes your out. He needs to respect you and the love you give him.
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