Grace112 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 If he can be making someone else so very happy right now, maybe the things that bothered me weren't so bad in the first place. Maybe I made it out to be worse than it was. A person doesn't do a complete about face in the span of a couple of months. Maybe he was right and I should have not been upset about the things I was upset about. The more time that passes, the more I regret not cherishing him as much as I should have.
malaclypse Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 If he can be making someone else so very happy right now, maybe the things that bothered me weren't so bad in the first place. Maybe I made it out to be worse than it was. A person doesn't do a complete about face in the span of a couple of months. Maybe he was right and I should have not been upset about the things I was upset about. The more time that passes, the more I regret not cherishing him as much as I should have. Or maybe he's just with someone that has lower standards than you? And it's human to forget about most of the bad things while remembering the good ones...
LuCidiTy Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Ah...sweetie...looking back with regret or remorse about the decisions you made at the time is tricky. Time has a tendency to cloud the facts, situations, and memories that at the time surrounded the decisions we made in the past. You probably had very good reasons for doing what you did. Accept that as truth. And even if it was something done only out of anger or hurt, perhaps something that you didn't think through, something that it seems you truly should be regretting, all you can do is take responsibility for a rash decision in the past and learn from that lesson for the future. You can't go back and change it no matter how you may yearn to.
Author Grace112 Posted March 16, 2008 Author Posted March 16, 2008 I do regret saying what I did. I know I can't change it - it has been said. I wish I could get him to forgive me. I forgave him for so much. It makes me feel so awful that he doesn't think our relationship was worth it. Even now I'd forgive him for telling lies about me and running to that other woman. I'm just in so much pain still. I'd almost do anything to bring him back.
starlite Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 Grace, our situations are so so similar! I was with my ex almost 3 years. He lied to me a great deal, turned me into an insecure mess, cheated on me (I learned of this after the breakup), convinced me I was ruining our relationship and here I am, 5 months later questioning the good times. I was a stressed out mess when I was with him. He has been emailing me begging for forgiveness, wanting me to talk to him and be back in his life. I am sitting here, and have been all weekend questioning it all. Wanting him back. But I am starting to wonder if it is the comfort I am missing the most. I am independent and by what you say you seem to be as well. I dont need a bf, I never have, my friends are more like that. But how fair is it they we are sitting here mourning over ass holes??? How old are you? I am 25. (Going to be 26 in a couple months ) So yes Grace, it was that bad. He is now with someone with lower standards, good chance he will do the same to her. And if fidelity is something that is important to you, then yes, it was that bad!
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