findmyway Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I am not even really sure why. I guess because it is the end of the week and we usually can have our best relaxing conversations at this time... and I saw him often on Fridays too, lunches and stuff. I don't know.. but I am having a real hard time right now, wanting to call him so bad and talk like we used to so much.
Owl Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Call someone else instead. Call a friend, or a family member. Maybe someone you've not talked to in a long time? Use your support system ESPECIALLY on those days when you know you'll be weak. And if you know that there are set days that are tougher...PLAN on dealing with it ahead of time. Make plans for activities that will occupy your time and energy on those days especially, to keep your thoughts from turning to him during those times. You CAN do this...and the more you have a PLAN for dealing with things, the faster you'll recover from all the heartache and stress. Hang in there!
Author findmyway Posted March 14, 2008 Author Posted March 14, 2008 Thanks Owl. I think what makes it so hard is that the worst time is actually during the day when I am at work. I used to talk to him in the morning and then look forward to lunch.... stuff like that. Kinda hard to distract myself at work- except for obviously doing my work- which becomes hard to focus on. I am trying though!!!
Meaplus3 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I am not even really sure why. I guess because it is the end of the week and we usually can have our best relaxing conversations at this time... and I saw him often on Fridays too, lunches and stuff. I don't know.. but I am having a real hard time right now, wanting to call him so bad and talk like we used to so much. Like Owl said call someone else. I would also try to stay busy..perhaps make some plans with a friend or engage yourself in a hooby that you enjoy. You can do it. Stay strong. AP:)
Owl Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I don't know what you do for a living (nor am I asking!)...but you might try to schedule your work if possible so your biggest load/hardest tasks take place Friday morning then. Setup something for your Friday lunches too. Like a workout session, or maybe setup a mtg with a friend (single, or female! ) over that time. This way you're not sitting there brooding on what's happened, and dealing with missing MM. Like I said, since you know its a tough time...make a plan in advance for dealing with it. It helps...a LOT.
imstunned Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I felt compelled to reply only because when I saw the title of your post I thought "yeah I can relate to that - I used to find Fridays hard too". Then I thought - "huh, USED to??" and yeah - I dont anymore. I didnt even notice! I used to find the weekends torture, but now I dont. My point - hang in there. It DOES get better, even if when it does you dont even notice !
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 That's a fantastic idea from OWL, either do the gym thing or even do a 45 min yoga class during your lunch hour on Friday's. Sidenote - Imstunned, I'm so proud of you! You've worked really hard on yourself. Way to go!
GreenEyedLady Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Remember that you are not alone... Just keep going... (((HUGS)))
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 And it's Saturday... "This too shall pass". Make that your mantra for a Friday
phoenixgirl Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I always like this quote from Anne Shirley, aka "Anne of Green Gables": "Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it yet!" I know it sounds pessimistic, but if you know Anne and how unquenchably optimistic she is, you'll know that she looked forward to each new day with hope and faith. We can too!
GreenEyedLady Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 "Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it yet!" I don't think it's pessimistic at all... It simply helps us realize that we get a second chance, a fresh slate, if we choose it...
Author findmyway Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 That's a fantastic idea from OWL, either do the gym thing or even do a 45 min yoga class during your lunch hour on Friday's. Sidenote - Imstunned, I'm so proud of you! You've worked really hard on yourself. Way to go! Too bad MM is going back to the gym at the time I would go, so that is out. :/
Author findmyway Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 I live in a small town. It is pretty much the town gym and it is way more affordable then gyms in bigger towns near us. Not to mention, my whole family goes there... kinda like cheers... were everybody knows your name. I have equipment at home that i am using, but i get lonely thinking of everyone else across town... and knowing the equipment i am using was a gift from MM... at that time I liked working out at home cause then after work i could see MM and not worry about what time I got to the gym. Now that that isnt an issue, it is just plain lonely... and here i am with this expensive equipment that just makes me think of him.
phoenixgirl Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Fridays aren't hard for me... I guess it's Saturday. And Sunday. The rest of the week I'm fine.
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