wow Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 "You have been so unfair to me all the times youve done crap like this, and its not stopping, can you stop making such HUGE blatent mistakes, this relationship would be so much better, id feel more safe and secure and appreciated, not like a forgotten person all the time" - Girlfriend So let me put a bit of context around how this statement came about. A week ago I put up photos on Facebook of myself on vacation with my exGF. My ex was not in any of the photos which i thought was fine to post (They were just cool pics of me having fun in the ocean). Then 4 weeks ago i spent sometime in Italy with a friend and a picture was taken of me with a group of girls. Which my GF saw and got upset about. I do not think that there is anything wrong with the italy picture but i understand that it made her insecure. I do understand that there is something wrong with the vacation pictures. I want my girlfriend to feel special and secure so what can i do to make things right? Seems like we are boarder line on breaking up Thanks.
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Are you on breaking point just because of the photographs? If so, then I think your girlfriend has low self-esteem issues, which is always a red-flag (I have suffered from low self-esteem, though it's nowhere as bad as what it once was). If your ex was in the photo's on your facebook, then I could understand your girlfriend taking exception to the photo's. After all it would send out the message that you still have feelings for your girlfriend, even if your motives where purely innocent. It's worrying your girlfriend got upset by a photo with the group of girls. Was the photo purely innocent? If so, she has trust issues to deal with, which could stem from a low self-esteem. It sounds like she is jealous, too which is not a good sign if you are indeed on breaking point because of the photographs. I think you two should sit down and communicate properly, ask her questions and answer any questions she has, a nice heart to heart never hurt anyone.
Author wow Posted March 14, 2008 Author Posted March 14, 2008 Are you on breaking point just because of the photographs? If so, then I think your girlfriend has low self-esteem issues, which is always a red-flag (I have suffered from low self-esteem, though it's nowhere as bad as what it once was). If your ex was in the photo's on your facebook, then I could understand your girlfriend taking exception to the photo's. After all it would send out the message that you still have feelings for your girlfriend, even if your motives where purely innocent. It's worrying your girlfriend got upset by a photo with the group of girls. Was the photo purely innocent? If so, she has trust issues to deal with, which could stem from a low self-esteem. It sounds like she is jealous, too which is not a good sign if you are indeed on breaking point because of the photographs. I think you two should sit down and communicate properly, ask her questions and answer any questions she has, a nice heart to heart never hurt anyone. We are not at breaking point only due to the photos but due to a number of issues. Which coin coincidentally all involve other girls. My ex was not in any of the photos but the fact that the photos were from my vacation with my ex pissed her off. I think a heart to heart talk is in order.
Woggle Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 She is very insecure and you need to set ground rules that if things don't change you are out of there. That vacation was part oif your life with nor without your ex and you shiould not have to wipe it from your existence just because she says so.
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 We are not at breaking point only due to the photos but due to a number of issues. Which coin coincidentally all involve other girls. My ex was not in any of the photos but the fact that the photos were from my vacation with my ex pissed her off. I think a heart to heart talk is in order. Other girls? I'd say she is suffering from insecurity which can be traced back to low self-esteem. She's got the jealousy bug by the looks of things. You need to set some ground rules, but ultimately it's her and only her who can restore her esteem levels to a respectable state. My friend suffered from low self-esteem as I'm sure we all do at some stage of our lives and he became possessive and controlling over his girlfriend and would become jealous when any guy talked to his girlfriend, eventually she couldn't handle it anymore and left him and with it he lost a great girl through his own personal problems. This should serve as a good fore-warning to your girlfriend, because sooner or later you'll get so fed up of having to reassure her that you'll lose all will to be with her.
Recommended Posts