Random Username Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 (edited) I met a girl a few weeks ago and you know the story, felt an instant connection and the inside of me turned all fuzzy and warm lol. I'd say, this one is truely a good thing. I was so positive she was into me too, thought I was getting all the vibes from her, I still think I am (I think).. but that's where the complication lies.. So I haven't actually 'said' anything to let her know how I feel, but it's gotta be totally obvious. Last week, we were walking out and for some reason, that night I got a little choked up, cause that's the first time it started getting kinda quiet, like oh no, awkward silence oh no!! So I started feeling a little nervous and I haven't been like this since, uhh high school? (which was eons ago ;P) I felt like a little boy again.. a little nervous and kinda froze up. So she kinda blurted out something like.. blah blah cause my boyfriend blah blah. But it was TOTALLY obvious she purposely threw in that word. When she did, I kinda did that thing, like had a sudden change in voice.. like, 'oh.. that's cool.. hehe' and it did feel kind of awkward, then we both said bye and that's it. So I was kinda bummed over that. But I told myself NOT to go that route, don't be a sucker, find some other girl. So I got myself to literally get over her in one night. The next day, I saw her and as soon as she saw me she was like hey!!! how are youuu??? and I thought that was weird. I was like 'good'. All day, she had the most distressed look and body language ever. I couldn't tell if maybe she was just concerned because she knew she hit me with a heavy blow or what. That's what I assumed. But honestly, I forced myself to get over her so much, I acted completely unphased when I saw her. So she should've noticed and been like, cool.. he's fine. But still, she looked awful that day, and normally she's always all happy and preppy. I was kinda laughin, saying 'you look tired'.. It felt like she knew I was either going to be really sad or something.. I don't know. I thought I even heard her sigh a couple times, she just looked awful.. Anyway, truth is I'm crazy for her. Now, we kinda talk like before, but I don't bring up this supposed 'boyfriend'. I'm just assuming she does. But I still feel something from her.. I can't figure it out!! I mean, I feel like she likes me but I'm not sure how. I'm kinda wondering if she lied. Maybe she was nervous too, or testing me and it backfired on her? I don't know. But I don't want to ask or bring it up. What do you guys think? Am I okay just going at it like I am.. which is basically showing interest non-verbally, for however long it takes, or should I be doing something? Cause for all I know she might have a bf and just thinks I'm a cool guy, but I kinda wouldn't want to know if that's all this is. Edited March 14, 2008 by Random Username
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 A similar situation has happened to me recently, I met a girl, had a few conversations with her, became attracted to her and then I find out she has a boyfriend. I've seen her recently after not seeing her for a while and I had knots in my stomach and felt quite sick, but I'll get over it when she leaves. I think you should try and find out if she has a boyfriend, if you do and you find out she doesn't then you can arrange some dates (if she's interested), if she does have a boyfriend, then you can put her behind you and move on. For what it's worth - she likes you.
AussieJack Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 What do you guys think? Am I okay just going at it like I am.. which is basically showing interest non-verbally, for however long it takes, or should I be doing something? Cause for all I know she might have a bf and just thinks I'm a cool guy, but I kinda wouldn't want to know if that's all this is. Here we go again- another love sick chump drooling over some chicka who is pulling power moves. When a woman is telling you, " I have a boyfriend" she is telling you one of two things - 1 . " I am spoken for and the most that we can be is friends -sort of .." 2. "I am going to try and create a rivalry between you and another guy ( real or not) for my affections. I love feeling like a 'prize' that men seek so I want to be up on a pedestal with you two chumps fighting over me. That gives me all the power which i just love. " Dude, AussieJack says -"Never compete for a woman- NEVER, EVER.." YOu need to build a successful life so that women compete for YOU. Ya feel me ?
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