red_barchetta Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 A week ago today, something weird happened: I met a girl (which almost never happens) at a gas station (which definitely never happens). So I'm sitting at the gas station, doing what people at a gas station do, when I finish up and get ready to take off. Just as I'm about to turn on my engine, I hear a high-pitched voice to my right. I look over and see a girl, also on a motorcycle, staring right at me -- she repeats what she said, which was "my bike won't start." Now I know how it feels to have a bike that won't work; happened to me just a couple weeks ago even and it sucks, so how could I take off without helping (plus she was a girl -- I have a weakness for girls). I parked my bike and walked over to find out what the deal was. (by this time, she had her helmet off and looked damn cute) Turns out the (brand new) battery in her bike was completely dead. So I offer to help push-start it and she agreed, but unfortunately, the bike wasn't having it -- you could hear it try to come on, but it just couldn't. But as it turns out, she lives just up the street (literally just around the corner from my house!!!) and she had a truck with a ramp we can load the bike up. She then asks if I can give her a lift on my bike to her house and I agreed, even though I have never given a passenger a lift before -- but what could I say (say no and destroy my status as uber-man?!)? But I took it slow and got her there just fine (the handling was definitely different, but not as bad as I expected -- oh, and I'm not going to lie, I didn't exactly mind having a hot girl I just met holding onto me). When we got to her place she asked if I could stick around as there's no way she'd be able to roll the bike up her truck ramp without help -- again, no qualms here. When she opened the garage to grab the ramp, I noticed she had two more motorcycles! I was in love (okay, not really, but this was definitely a cool chick). Turns out she races motorcycles for fun (okay, maybe I really was in love). We then head back to her bike, and after a few attempts, managed to roll the bike up the ramp and onto the truck where it was then secured. Afterward, she drove me back to my bike, which was still parked outside her place. Now here is where things get hazy and confusing (to my inferior male mind, at least), but I'll try and retell it best as I recall. Before I take off she says "hey, you should swing by sometime and drop off your [business] card" (for contact purposes) -- I then (perhaps stupidly) told her I had them right with me and handed one over. She mentioned something about me hopefully going to see her race someday (that she'd email me or something, though I forget the specifics), then she hugged me goodbye. Alright, so fast forward to around 5:20pm and my work phone starts ringing -- only I wasn't there to answer it! GRRRRRRR! Now my work phone almost never rings, and when it does, it's because of other departments on the floor above who are GONE BY FIVE O'CLOCK. Which means that, in all likelihood, the call I missed was from the girl I met then! DAMMIT!!! So that's my story, and that's where we stand. It's now one week later and I'm wondering what I should do, if anything?
carhill Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 OK, here's one suggestion. Look for the next motorcycle race event in your area (of the type she had bikes for ) and go enjoy. You just never know whom you might meet there. You spread some good karma by being a gentleman and helping her out. It'll come back to you
irish1187 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I think you should absolutely ask this girl out! If you felt the connection, what do you really have to lose? You will just wonder what could have been if you don't, so get it over with. Good Luck!
Author red_barchetta Posted March 14, 2008 Author Posted March 14, 2008 I think you should absolutely ask this girl out! If you felt the connection, what do you really have to lose? You will just wonder what could have been if you don't, so get it over with. Good Luck! I totally agree -- the only problem is the only way I know how to contact her is via her house. I don't know her phone # or anything. Would that be at all weird, if I showed up during the day sometime?
Trimmer Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 All I can think of is: why wouldn't you? You can't be sure you are guaranteed success, but doing nothing certainly guarantees you the status quo.
irish1187 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I totally agree -- the only problem is the only way I know how to contact her is via her house. I don't know her phone # or anything. Would that be at all weird, if I showed up during the day sometime? Yeah, I see your problem there. Because you definitely don't want to seem like creepy or anything. Your the one who met her, does she seem cool and outgoing? Because if so, i'd go for it.. you said she literally lives right down the street so its not weird for you to be in the area.
Miss_Diagnosed Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Go for it! The next nice day, drive by... if you see her out and about her house, stop by and use the excuse of "Just wanted to see if you got your bike up and running..." That's not creepy or stalkerish... it's just showing some kind interest Which I think anyone would appreciate.
Legend Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Call her , be a man, not a woman, jeez. no need to play games. GO after what you want. After all, you ride a motorcycle don't you?
Author red_barchetta Posted March 14, 2008 Author Posted March 14, 2008 Thanks for the responses guys; I think I'm gonna have to do it. I might stop by Sunday, since that's the only day it's not going to rain locally from the start of it. However, another snag: I don't remember her name! What if someone else answers her door -- how do I ask if she's home without it coming across as really weird?
Trimmer Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Thanks for the responses guys; I think I'm gonna have to do it. I might stop by Sunday, since that's the only day it's not going to rain locally from the start of it. However, another snag: I don't remember her name! What if someone else answers her door -- how do I ask if she's home without it coming across as really weird? If a 6'2", 310 lb biker type guy answers, then I think your least wierd option would be to ask him if he would like to buy some Girl Scout cookies, hope he says "No," then slink away as quickly as possible. Otherwise, just be confident and wing it - if you are confident and not arrogant, it will come off just fine. "You got my business card, but I didn't get yours, and I don't even remember your name, but I didn't want to wait until you called..."
cammy37 Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Otherwise, just be confident and wing it - if you are confident and not arrogant, it will come off just fine. "You got my business card, but I didn't get yours, and I don't even remember your name, but I didn't want to wait until you called..." oh definitely... like Trimmer says, be confident... and be honest... and she'll find it totally endearing... no doubt you have to go find this girl... good luck and let us know how you get on...
Blue Eyed Brain Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Well, you should have asked her for her number (that would have been the right thing to do). You messed up. So, now the only thing to do, is to go to her home and see if she's available. Worst case; write a nice note on nice paper and put it in her mailbox. Oh, and PLEASE put your name and phone number on it. If she doesn't contact you, then she was just being polite. But try to get her to answer the door - be honest and tell her that you didn't get a chance to get her number and you wanted to ask her out. Report back to us....
Author red_barchetta Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 Well, you should have asked her for her number (that would have been the right thing to do). You messed up. Yeah, tell me about it -- I've been kicking myself for that. And don't worry, I definitely report back -- here's hoping it goes well.
AussieJack Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 . Which means that, in all likelihood, the call I missed was from the girl I met then! DAMMIT!!! So that's my story, and that's where we stand. It's now one week later and I'm wondering what I should do, if anything? What am I gonna do with you limp wimps. Even if she did not call you, CALL her and ask her if she DID. Make contact.. she gave you enough openings and you did not walk through any of them. She wanted to see you again my man. Do her a favor and call her. Another customer for my upcoming book, "Dating for Dummies"
AussieJack Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 However, another snag: I don't remember her name! What if someone else answers her door -- how do I ask if she's home without it coming across as really weird? YOu really need my book, AND some slappin', boy. YOu had PLENTY of time to wrap this chick up..and you let her slip . You don't remember her name AND you are full of "what ifs" ...that's fear dude. Just go to her house and bang on the door and ask her about her bike or her rottweiler or whatever, AND apologise for not remembering her name.. .remember your manners too. Now is the time to present yourself as the gentleman that you are because you are visiting with a lady.. NB ..Chapter 1 " Get the chick's name and # write em on a post-it and stick it on your computer screen frame. Ya dig ?
Author red_barchetta Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 (edited) Got her phone number. I just said "screw it, I'm going over there" -- so I rode up walked up to her door, and thank god she answered. We talked for a little while, then I asked for her # and got it! Of course, I've learned not to get excited at this point, but we'll see what happens. Thanks all for the advice, by the way. Edited March 15, 2008 by red_barchetta
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Got her phone number. I just said "screw it, I'm going over there" -- so I rode up walked up to her door, and thank god she answered. We talked for a little while, then I asked for her # and got it! Of course, I've learned not to get excited at this point, but we'll see what happens. Thanks all for the advice, by the way. There ya go .. easy isn't it..? Now you have her attention, and you have created some attraction by being BOLD enough to go and get what you wanted. Women like bold men... it shows that you have confidence and courage. Old fashioned manly stuff.
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 You speak sense AJ, when I see the girl I like again, I'm gonna walk over and ask her straight out, this old fashioned manly stuff seems effective. To the OP, I hope it goes well for you.
OpenBook Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Got her phone number. I just said "screw it, I'm going over there" -- so I rode up walked up to her door, and thank god she answered. We talked for a little while, then I asked for her # and got it! Of course, I've learned not to get excited at this point, but we'll see what happens. Thanks all for the advice, by the way. [OpenBook clapping her hands] That is so sweet! Go You!! Go get her!!
OpenBook Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Now you have her attention, and you have created some attraction by being BOLD enough to go and get what you wanted. Women like bold men... it shows that you have confidence and courage. Old fashioned manly stuff. This is extremely true.
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 You speak sense AJ, when I see the girl I like again, I'm gonna walk over and ask her straight out, this old fashioned manly stuff seems effective. To the OP, I hope it goes well for you. Yeah, you young guys have been wussified by the education system and the freaking feminist media and what all... You are men for pete's sake - go get some prey !!
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