Theorem Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 (edited) after trying to be friends with my ex and it just clashing, alot of times i accept its me being thoughtless but at times i have doubts. That being we are both of different natures that dont complement each other. We just have problems and when i ask whats wrong to see if i can fix it. I get responses like "just one more thing your clueless about." it Bothers me so much too, not being able to just really know whats going on. Obviously theres also some resentment in there im sure. But anyway...it seems like this painful relationship is coming to an end. She seems INDIFFERENT to me now, as if she Upped her standards from me and im no longer important as a friend. IE im not close friend anymore Its been tough battling with the idea that i cannot fix the issue with communication. I feel as if as if theres no way around my misunderstanding of the issues with her. She always goes to the fact i dont understand...its so frustrating to just hear ONLY that in some cases. Whens the time you just know when you should give up? Ive done this with her alot in the past as friends before we actually got together. I think that makes it harder now too...to fully let go 100% Do you think its a different natured person clash here? its almost always felt like it inside... Edited March 14, 2008 by Theorem
AvgJoeDoe Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 I dont know if this will answer you question, but i think that sometimes you set the boundaries of the relationship to where you can be open at any type of conversation. I had that with mine but i got to a time where she just had too many problems and didnt know where to start and i believe your ex has that problem too of pride and closing up when feeling a lot of pressure on things. Its hard to let go but sometimes theres no other way to set time and think about what she wants. Sometimes is that but well im pretty sure some other people in here will give you a more concise anwer to your question. Good Luck and hang in there.
EllaDerSpin Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Not quite sure what you are asking, but, this doesn't sound like a very pleasant experience you are having. Simplicity is always best. You cannot change the person or situation, so if it is not working and you are happy with your own conduct then leave it alone.
ibitealil Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 Not quite sure what you are asking, but, this doesn't sound like a very pleasant experience you are having. Simplicity is always best. You cannot change the person or situation, so if it is not working and you are happy with your own conduct then leave it alone. I discovered that the reason i couldnt get over him was my own guilt. I was constantly feeling guilty for what i did wrong during/after relationship. I think i started to move on as soon as i started to forgive myself. Let go of the things u cant change.
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