LilJ Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 A few weeks back I was out with friends and met two guys...one was very classy, educated, romantic, the whole deal. He took my number to call me. But later I met another... The other was...none of those things! We got to flirting and he wanted to hang out. I told him fine, but that I was NOT going to sleep with him. He seemed ok with it, so I went with him and we ended up at his place. We kissed but I had made it clear before I went there, and while I was there, that I did not want anything more. Although he tried a little, when he could see that it bothered me, he dropped it very politely. He actually made his bed for me, then made a place for himself to sleep...on the floor! When I woke up in the morning I was shocked. He obviously was very poor. But he was so sweet! He let me wake him up with my type-A, boisterous personality, and he got up for me and made sure I had something to drink. He walked me all the the way to the subway, buying me something along the way to help my hangover, and was very sweet, although way too shy! Anyways, its been weeks now, and I cannot stop thinking about this guy! I have no idea why. The classy, educated, romantic guy called me and left a message, but I just had no desire to call him back. Yet for some reason, this guy keeps bugging my thoughts. He does not have my contact info, but I know how to reach him. But I keep pushing these thoughts away, because I know it would not work. I dated a poor man once, was in love really, and it was a nightmare. He never thought he was good enough for me, educated enough, nothing I told him or did could stop him thinking like that. So I keep telling myself to just ride these feelings out, let it go, nothing good could come of it, but I keep thinking of him. Should I keep being sensible and just let it go?
shanny Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 He sounds like an absolute sweetheart. How do you know that he is poor? Just by his place? That's not always a good indication. What if he is the type that just likes to live below his means? And so what if he is poor? You dated a poor guy once, but they are not all the same. I wonder what you define as poor... do you mean living paycheck to paycheck like most of the world or do you mean that he doesn't have money to eat? This classy, educated guy could be a total jerk... Who cares about the money if he doesn't treat you well? I think you should go with your heart and date the "poor" guy. He could end up being rich one day anyway. Sweet guys don't come along that often. Don't base this decision on your previous experience. No two people are exactly alike. Good luck!
Author LilJ Posted March 14, 2008 Author Posted March 14, 2008 Thank you for responding! I know he is poor because his place was just a small room in a run down building over a bar, with one of those shared bathroom deals. Also, he was so sweet, but soooo shy. It was really hard to get him to smile or come out of his shell the whole time. I actually talked to him because I was trying to cheer him up, because he seemed not very happy, and I started liking him in the process. I am just afraid of being dragged down. I mean, I know it means nothing, I do not even know him, but I never like anyone, so the fact I keep thinking of him tells me something is up that could spell trouble if I am not careful. Thanks!
tkgirl Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 Thank you for responding! I know he is poor because his place was just a small room in a run down building over a bar, with one of those shared bathroom deals. Also, he was so sweet, but soooo shy. It was really hard to get him to smile or come out of his shell the whole time. I actually talked to him because I was trying to cheer him up, because he seemed not very happy, and I started liking him in the process. I am just afraid of being dragged down. I mean, I know it means nothing, I do not even know him, but I never like anyone, so the fact I keep thinking of him tells me something is up that could spell trouble if I am not careful. Thanks! You are understandably intrigued by this guy. Maybe he was so shy with you the next morning because he was embarrassed by the fact you say his small... place! haha! or he was embarassed by how he acted the night before? he didn't seem so shy then did he? Anyho... I would probably feel the same way... but who knows why he might be living in a situation like he is right now... maybe he is going to school to become the next Donald Trump? hopefully without the bad hair though! good luck... I hope you can see him again soon so you can learn more about him and get these feelings of yours to make more sense!
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