LilJ Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 (edited) I moved in with a girl I know a few months back. It was kind of odd - I was in a bad situation and at first she said I could stay with her. So I moved in and the same night, as I was moving in, she announced I could NOT stay with her - that her uncle had found out I was moving in and was angry (the apartment is owned by him.) Well, I was clearly confused, and then she changed her mind - she claimed her uncle would never know I was there, and it was fine if I stayed! Well, her new boyfriend, who had moved in before me, showed up, and after hearing her say it was ok, turned around and said it was not hard for me to find another place, and they could help me! Huh? Was it ok to stay or not? So I asked again if she was sure it was ok, and she said yes. At first it was awkward...I was not sure just how welcome I really was! Had she lied under pressure from her boyfriend? Did he not want me there? Should I find ANOTHER place? A friend suggested he didn't want me there so that they could have a lot of sex... Well, after being there a few weeks, we went out one night, the three of us, and I drank WAY too much! Now, when I drink too much, I get obnoxious, like most people, but mainly I like to shock people. My friends who know me, understand I am joking. But I realize people who don't know me might, well, be startled....but, when I have had too much to drink, in my inebriated state, thats the point! So, this girl I live with is soooo shy. So I basically was trying to tell her to build up her confidence. I told her that she is hot and if I was a lesbian, I would hit on her, so she should work it! It was my standard shock fest, which is funny to people who understand that it is a joke. My best friend and I will joke that we are a couple when we are drinking, and walk around arm in arm, but we know its just all a joke. So the next day, I went to her and told her that I knew I probably was really shocking to her last night, and tried to explain that is how I am when I drink too much and I hope I did not freak her out. She said it was fine, not to worry, that it was actually really funny. So I let it go. About a week later, her and I were going out for drinks, and her boyfriend (who had been there that night) came along. She started bugging him to tell me about some clients of his...so he began to explain about "some woman" he knows who is into all this crazy kinky stuff, threesomes, foursomes, and lots of kinky stuff way kinkier than that, etc! I started to feel like they were hinting at something. So while we were out drinking, he starts hinting that his real name is "DOMinic." Then he hints that I am living with a freak (my friend) and some other things. I really got the feeling that they thought the things I had said, the night I was drunk, were SERIOUS!! Well, I had to meet someone, and so I left, but when I came back home, they were in the bathtub in the bathroom together, quite loudly....finally they came out and we got to hanging out. He started talking about this "client" he knows, who gets other women for her boyfriend to sleep with in threesomes, foursomes, etc. Then he got on the internet and found a naked picture of this girl who he said was one of the women his "client" got to sleep with her boyfriend! She was like 19 years old and had this LONG list of the KINKIEST stuff ever that she would do. I really felt at this point like I was being subtly hit on by both of them, so I knew I had to do something, because obviously I had NOT cleared up that I had been joking when I was drinking too much. So I tried to explain about my background, the town I grew up in, how that kind of thing is just normal and funny when you go out drinking with your friends in that atmosphere, but nothing serious! Then it was like he was frustrated! At one point he said, "but you HAVE to be that way!" And she made a comment, like, "oh, who wants to play with those amateurs?" As if referring to me as saying that. Well, ever since then, they have not been as friendly towards me. They used to invite me to join them if they were hanging out, but now its more like they want me to go away! They are polite, but I get the feeling they don't want me around, as they clearly do not invite me to hang out with them when they are hanging out in the apartment, or when they go out. If I ask them to do something, they say they dont want to do anything, but then go out together, so I stopped bothering to ask. It just seems really odd to me. Maybe I am wrong, but I get the feeling they were trying to have some kinky threesome with me, which I am not into. So it is confusing that it was ok to spend time with me when they were after that, but since I am not into it, its not ok? I don't get it. A few days later, I came home, and she was on the phone, and I heard her talking about someone who was trailer park and not that pretty, but she was doing it the living room so I could hear as I was in the hall, and it was so obviously me she was talking about! My questions are these: do you think she lied about her "uncle" not wanting me there, and that it was her boyfriend who did not want me there, because they have crazy sex and he wanted privacy? Were they trying to hit on me to have a threesome? And now that they see I am not into it, are they excluding me from their company because thats all they were interested in or some other reason? Thanks! P.S. They are so loud - I can hear him spanking her! LOL Edited March 13, 2008 by LilJ
Author LilJ Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 Um...anyone? I don't have that much longer to go here...I just need some help getting through this Its so creepy! I really do not like being in a situation where I have to hear this kind of stuff....it disturbs me... Help!
Green Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I often find myself not believing anything you write. You shouldn't let this drama affect you. It's easier said then done, but its the advice I'd give myself in your situation. Are you hot by the way? and by that I mean in shape with a good face
Author LilJ Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 (edited) So I am a little confused, but smiling about it. I am smiling because when you say you often don't believe anything I write, I am wondering how that is, since I just joined and have not posted that much? And as far as to "am I hot", well, thats kind of an awkward question to be asked. I suppose it is a bluntly fair question, but kind of awkward to answer. I mean, how many times have you read some guy or girl who replies with some combo of the following by saying, "I am a good looking/ pretty / handsome / hot girl/guy"? They come across as egotistical! And everyone attacks them as lying on the internet and really being 5'2" and 300 pounds! Then you have the ones who say some combination of, "I don't know if I am that good looking, but other guys / girls say I am 'hot'." Then they just look falsely modest, as if they want to scream out, "I am so hot!" but know better, so try to play it off like they don't know, when they really do know. And people seem to think they are just as bad as the first group who just say they are hot! So it seems the only option is to say, "no, I am not hot. No one ever hits on me." Then people might think, "ah! Someone honest! How refreshing! Not some ugly liar pretending to be beautiful on the internet!" So it seems the best answer is to a) lie if you are "hot" and say you are not "hot" and if your not really hot at all in real life, well lucky you! You don't have to lie! But those are often the ones who do! Or so it seems. So you see, its a tricky question to answer :-) At least from my point of view. I just do not like this situation. Its creepy to me. Would anyone else be creeped out? Edited March 15, 2008 by LilJ
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