Very Weird Situation With a Married Woman

[smackie9]

Cool story bro......thanks for the update... 13 years later. I think that's a record.

[Versacehottie]

On 3/14/2008 at 3:13 PM, Tiz said:

I know it's really a mute point, but I'm just curious if she would've had sex with me or if she was just toying with me knowing that she would turn down my advances. She's told me that she never sexually cheats meaning intercourse on her partners. I guess this could all be a lie as part of the manipulation.

Sounds like she's doing everything but so it's just semantics really, splitting hairs about whether she would have had sex with you.  IMO, it could go either way about the physical act itself..  The thing is she is ALREADY getting what she wants when you are at her beck and call and spilling your guts that you like her while she jerks you around.  It means what she is seeking is not the physical act but the emotion--the ego boost, etc--which she was satisfied with what she got at that point that day.  When she has another low point, she will jerk you closer again.  

She doesn't sound like a good bet for a serious relationship. I would advise running and not looking back. if you were in a serious relationship with her, you can fill in the blanks about what she would do to manage her internal high/low battle with attention seeking behavior. No go, absolutely 

 

*oops didn't see that it was an update and the DATE on this story! Wow.  Looks like my prediction as well as the others were spot on. I'm sorry and glad you eventually got away

Edited April 4, 2021 by Versacehottie

[Tiz]

I should note that I halfway followed the advice here and I went no contact with her for two years (2009-2011) when she was pulling this with her husband at the time.  I had moved away from the area, and it was only after I found out from her brother she had gotten a divorce that I went back in and started playing with fire.  I knew what she was about, but I buckled up for a ride anyway.  It turned out like everyone said it would be.  

[Versacehottie]

I guess live and learn.  I think it's always important to look at what motivates a person. And how their character drives the choices they are making.  Almost all the answers you need are right there in how they are conducting their life without you in it yet.

 Hope you have moved onto something much better!

[spiderowl]

Oh dear!  You have found yourself a crazy, impulsive woman, OP.  She does not have the usual boundaries and has knowingly been playing with your feelings.  She is trying to gaslight you into thinking this kind of 'friends' or FWB relationship is normal for her and those who get involved.  Of course they get attached to her and she knows that: she's not stupid!

Well, I take that back, maybe she is stupid!  She got married to a guy from another country that she barely knows.  He is from a totally different culture and, depending on where he is from, men there may treat women totally differently from men where you are.  She should take his threats seriously.  She has put herself in a dangerous position.  She has put her family in a dangerous position.  In short, she has little common sense.

You were right in assuming it would not be sensible to get involved with her.  If you have sex with her, you are taking a risk with your health.  I would not trust what she says about being faithful to her husband, so best so use precautions to protect yourself.  I am not surprised her husband has become suspicious of her.  Also, he is sufficiently disturbed that he has threatened murder - take him seriously!

Honestly, you are best keeping well away from her and not even phoning.  For all you know, her husband is monitoring all contact with her and has you in the firing line.  Hopefully you and she are safe but her apparent naivety has brought trouble to her family.  If you have any sense, you will keep well away.

Oops, just read your update.  Thanks for letting us know.  Glad you are still safe and sound anyway.  We live and learn!

 

Edited April 5, 2021 by spiderowl