quikbroom Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Hello all. The reason i am posting is that i am lookin for a little help. I have a date comin up and im getting nervous just thinkin about it. My problem is that i have never been very good at controllin my nerves, especially on dates. I know everyone gets nervous before a date, but i have actually cancelled a date because i got so nervous about it. I would really like to be reasonably comfortable on this so if anyone has any suggestions or tips, they are very much appreciated.
ilovemurf Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 i'm the opposite. never nervous. just take your date as a friend and be yourself. meet your date at a coffee shop you go with friends
NuTuDating Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I have to agree with TB. Couple or three shots before the date (depending on your tolerance - don't show up drunk). Meeting with friends may put too much pressure on the both of you to make it happen.
MakeLemonade Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I hate to 3rd the idea, I don't necessarily like to hype getting all liquored up but a good stiff drink before-hand should help calm those nerves and help boost your confidence a bit. You'll be fine - deep breaths - it's just a date not your wedding day! Good luck
tanbark813 Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I hate to 3rd the idea, I don't necessarily like to hype getting all liquored up but a good stiff drink before-hand should help calm those nerves and help boost your confidence a bit. Word. And just to clarify, I wasn't advocating getting drunk, just a little something to take the edge off.
malaclypse Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Hello all. The reason i am posting is that i am lookin for a little help. I have a date comin up and im getting nervous just thinkin about it. My problem is that i have never been very good at controllin my nerves, especially on dates. I know everyone gets nervous before a date, but i have actually cancelled a date because i got so nervous about it. I would really like to be reasonably comfortable on this so if anyone has any suggestions or tips, they are very much appreciated. I think it's really cute when a girl is nervous on a first date...
NuTuDating Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I think it's really cute when a girl is nervous on a first date... This is truth.
dreamergrl Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Ha I've done the "have a few drinks" before hand kind of thing. Met up with a friend, had a few, wasn't drunk or even buzzed, but calmer. I don't normally get nervous, but for some reason that time I was. It actually helped.
malaclypse Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I think it's really cute when a girl is nervous on a first date... This reminds me... One of my gfs actually ran away from me and locked herself in the toilet for a few minutes after we talked for the first time... Oh, the memories.
dreamergrl Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 This reminds me... One of my gfs actually ran away from me and locked herself in the toilet for a few minutes after we talked for the first time... Oh, the memories. What did you say after she came out?
malaclypse Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 What did you say after she came out? It was something like this: Me - "You ok?" Her - "Yes....(mumblemumble)" ( I didn't understand what she was saying..) Me - "You didn't really need to go to the toilet, right?" Her - "No... " (looking at me frightened or unsure .. ) Me - "Don't worry, it's ok. But please try not to run away again, I prefer it when you are near me." ... the rest of the date went really well.
dreamergrl Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 It was something like this: Me - "You ok?" Her - "Yes....(mumblemumble)" ( I didn't understand what she was saying..) Me - "You didn't really need to go to the toilet, right?" Her - "No... " (looking at me frightened or unsure .. ) Me - "Don't worry, it's ok. But please try not to run away again, I prefer it when you are near me." ... the rest of the date went really well. Awww I don't even know what I would say if someone ran like that! Although, I doubt a man would run into the restroom out of nerves like that
carhill Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 When my wife goes out on dates, she uses Xanax Seriously, perfectly normal. OP, if you feel overwhelmed, be honest with your date. You're human and, if he is a gentleman, he'll understand, whether that means rescheduling or doing things to make you feel more comfortable. If he's oblivious to your feelings, he's not the right guy for you.
Art_Critic Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Have a couple shots beforehand. I would think a drink or so would do it.. but be careful not to go overboard.. if you are buzzed then she will notice and you will get thrown aside as someone who gets drunk on first dates even if you aren't drunk...
malaclypse Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Awww I don't even know what I would say if someone ran like that! Although, I doubt a man would run into the restroom out of nerves like that Yeah... well I can be quite dominant in RL, so I'm used to women being like this... not to such an extreme, but ..
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