gabulldawg68 Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I am a 39 year old single parent (I've never been married) and haven't really dated much at all since I had my son 16 years ago. I feel so out of touch with the new dating scene. I met a man who is in his mid-40's 2 months ago...he has never been married either. We have spent every weekend together since the day we met...not in a sexual way. He is affectionate with me, he holds hands with me, rubs my shoulders, plays with my hair, back massage, intense kissing, and even have shared same bed several times (but no sex)...he is the one who abruptly pulls away and cuddles instead. He pays for every outing we've had. I'm taking a trip to visit my sister 4 hours away in another state, and he said he wanted to go. However, it is in the back of my mind something that he said our third date...he was very attracted to me intellectually, but not so much the physical. He planned several out of town overnight trips that included me over the last month. He has introduced me over the last few weeks as his friend. But to me, friends don't cuddle, neck, hold hands, caress each other, etc. I can't figure out if we are indeed dating, or whether I am just a friend for him to hang out with. I'm not sure how to approach this with him. I enjoy his company and I know he enjoys mine...but I don't want to misread anything if in fact he just considers us friends... what is a good way for me to approach this with him without scaring him off. I want it to develop into something long term, but want to test waters before telling him that especially if he has a different idea of what our relationship is:confused:.
ilovemurf Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 i understand how he feels i think. i'm doing the exact same thing as he's doing now. i enjoy hanging out with my date. we spend weekends together since we met. but i just need more time to be more intimate. i think he does too. give him some time.
Author gabulldawg68 Posted March 13, 2008 Author Posted March 13, 2008 i understand how he feels i think. i'm doing the exact same thing as he's doing now. i enjoy hanging out with my date. we spend weekends together since we met. but i just need more time to be more intimate. i think he does too. give him some time. so, what you are saying is that I need to just sit back and see what happens? I'm not a forward person, so it's not like I would "jump him," and I am flattered that he treats me like a lady. But, I just thought he was not physically attracted to me because he pulls away.
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