JerseyShortie Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I do think it's natural for there to be older man/younger women combos. I have dated alot of older guys and it isn't that they are more attractive, but they do have experience, more established and are able to provide me with experiences that a hot 20 year old guy just can't. I think the ideal age range for men that are in their prime is 25-40. And beyond that, I am generally not attracted to them. Actually, if we are to be perfectly honest about aging. A man's sperm at 25 is alot healthier then a man at 40. So ideally, as far as health goes, a man of 25 is a more ideal mate. And in times where women gain their own wealth now, the way a man looks has become a more important fixture in a woman picking a mate. I also think alot of men are more sensitive about aging then women. As men age their libidos go down and they can't get off like they once could. And men over identify with their libidos, so they take this as a sign of weakness to their masculinty. A younger women gives them a false sense of self. I am also learly of older men that are very fixated on only dating younger women or potentially don't want to see women because of "baggage". We all have baggage, men and women. That is called life. I think a person that isn't capable of expecting that, man or women, although mature in body, isn't mature in mind. And who wants to be with a 40 year old man that isn't mentally mature or capable of dealing with life since that is what is suppose to come with age? So to say it again, I think older men/younger women combos are normal. But I never date older men that say things like "I'm young at heart"...."or age is only a number". It speaks of what they value and their insecurities. And if that is what they value, then they will always be looking for that younger person. And lets face it, we are all in the same boat and only getting older. What is attractive to ALL women is a man who values women and appreicates them and makes them feel beautiful no matter what her age. That is utimately one thing ALL women want. And you can't fake that. And you can see through it when men just go for young women.
AriaIncognito Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 OP - If you are 26 and guys your age are going for women about 5 years younger than them, I'd find that pretty normal to be honest. I've recently been pursued by a man 17 years my elder. Not sure what it is he's looking for or even why he made it to his age without marriage, but there you go. I think there's a societal norm, at least here in the states, that it's normal when the man is older than the woman. Usually it's a closer range, like 5-10 years, but it's usually what I've heard called normal. There is a lot to be said for mentality or stage of life and age difference though. When you're 19 you're more than likely not going to accept a date from a guy who is 39, however when you're 39 you might consider a guy who's 59. I think our mentality changes over the years to realize that age is in fact basically just a number. I know 20 year olds who seem 50 and I know 50 year olds that seem 30 so you really can't tell by the number alone. As for myself, I've only dated a man that was 2 years younger than me, and then well I've seriously dated a man that was 5 years older than me. The 17 years older one is still around so we'll see. I wouldn't shut the door if you meet someone who's nice and intelligent and whatever else you seek, just because their age isn't in your predetermined slot, you know?
Trialbyfire Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I don't know if anyone else is like this but it boils down to compatibility. As an example, a thirty-something man who usually dates a younger woman in her early twenties. A man like this would be of no interest to me and also, wouldn't be interested in me. This is neither wrong or right. It just is. No one is forced to date anyone who doesn't meet their attraction criteria.
DogMetal Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Most men find younger women more attractive (less wrinkles, no vericous veins, no cottage cheese thighs). Plus, it makes THEM feel young again, and most younger women are easier to fool. Older women are where its at btw.
Author dreamergrl Posted March 15, 2008 Author Posted March 15, 2008 Great insight JerseyShortie! Ariawoman- I normally date a few years older then me. The oldest I've been out with is 32 - and it wasn't that I wasn't attracted to him, just not what I was looking for. However, I can't see myself dating a guy more then 2 years younger then me, and even that is iffy - anytime I have, I've found the maturity level to just not be there. Now as I get older, assuming I'm still unwed and am single then - I wouldn't find it as much of a big deal. Also, and I don't mean for this to sound bad, but I look young for my age. So sometimes, I feel a bit "weird" dating too much older. If you saw me in person you'd think I was 20/21 instead of 26. While I agree that 5-8 years isn't a huge age difference in most cases, I think it is when you're looking at late teens and early 20's. Like you mentioned, the mentality is in play.
Green Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I'm 24 and I think my target range is 21 to 23. I'm really horible at telling ages though so when I found out a girl I was talking with was 29 I really had no idea. I see a difference in the Vagina of a 19 year old even when compared with say the vagina of a 23 year old, so it could be that to.
Balthazar Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I see a difference in the Vagina of a 19 year old even when compared with say the vagina of a 23 year old, so it could be that to. Now that KMT would be a really interesting method of age identification!
JerseyShortie Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 I see a difference in the Vagina of a 19 year old even when compared with say the vagina of a 23 year old, so it could be that to. Ummm, seriously a 19 year old vagina looks different then a 23 year old one???? You're serious? How many guys agree with that?
DogMetal Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Ummm, seriously a 19 year old vagina looks different then a 23 year old one???? You're serious? How many guys agree with that? Not I. But then again, I never did a side by side comparison. Do vagina's have rings to count like tree stumps?
Balthazar Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Can anyone guess what I will say next time a woman asks me to guess how old she is?
Green Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Yes the Vagina's are noticeably different and my friends agree. I guess the best person to ask this question to would be a female gyno. Minor imperfections such as selulite show up alot more on women as they go into their 20's. For me though the Vagina is the biggest difference
OpenBook Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 I tell you what... we can swap. You young girls can have the men in my age bracket. And I'll take the men in your age range... any day of the week!! :bunny::D:D
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 As men age their libidos go down and they can't get off like they once could. And men over identify with their libidos, so they take this as a sign of weakness to their masculinty. A younger women gives them a false sense of self. This is the sort on mindless gibberish that Cosmo is famous for. And a great example of how little women know about men, and why dating advice from women to other women is worthless rambling. You have no clue sister ! IF you want to know about men, ladies, ask a MAN..
Green Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 This is the sort on mindless gibberish that Cosmo is famous for. And a great example of how little women know about men, and why dating advice from women to other women is worthless rambling. You have no clue sister ! IF you want to know about men, ladies, ask a MAN.. I think shes a creeper
stillafool Posted March 17, 2008 Posted March 17, 2008 I see a difference in the Vagina of a 19 year old even when compared with say the vagina of a 23 year old, so it could be that to. I can see this as I'm sure there's a difference between a 19 year old's penis compared with a man in his 20's. Afterall, hasn't a man already reached and moved past his sexual peak by then?
Balthazar Posted March 25, 2008 Posted March 25, 2008 Wouldn't it be more logical to ask what makes some men go for older women?
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