mlchris2 Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 It's been awhile since I've had to do this (15 yr relationship ended in divorce), so I'm seeking advice. Here's the story. For the past few months, I've had a semi-serious relationship with a girl I work with. It's been mostly casual. Well one night we talked about how we both feel and where we'd like things to go. Both of us feel the same way about each other. We've had 2 dates, if you want to call them that. We both like to just sit at home and watch movies, so I've cooked her dinner and we've watch movies. I really like this girl and she knows it. I want to know if I should make the first move or do I let her tell me when the time is right? If so, how do I make the first move... do I just tell her I want to kiss her and wait for her reaction or do I do it when I walk her to her car or when we're having one of those moments staring at each other? If I wait for her to tell me... what signs do I look for? Will she tell me or do I have to wait for a signal? PS - i really dont want to hear about dating someone I work with... that's not the advise I'm thinking. I know some of the results from doing so. (sry for the being so brash, hehe) Mark
AussieJack Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 For the past few months, I've had a semi-serious relationship with a girl I work with. It's been mostly casual. Well one night we talked about how we both feel and where we'd like things to go. Both of us feel the same way about each other. Mark OK Mark,firstly I don't know about your definition of a "semi-serious relationship with a girl" but if you have not even kissed her yet ,then you are merely in a friendship. You want to know how to kiss her ? Do this- Wait until the next time that you are sitting on the couch with her, watching TV. Turn to look at her, and look deeply into her eyes as she turns to look back at you. Slowly stand up and pull her up with you. PLace you left hand under her right ear and slide it around so the your finger tips are on the nape of her neck . PLace your right hand on the small of her back and FIRMLY(but slowly) pull her into you and then KISS her with slow passion. Maintain lip contact for more than 12 seconds..After this slowly sit down without a word and also pull her down with you back into her original sitting postion. (If she does NOT pull away in under 12 seconds and maintains active kissing then you can progress to 'seal the deal' whenever you are ready.)
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 It's that simple? What happens if she pulls away, is that not going to create a mess? AVA.
AussieJack Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 It's that simple? What happens if she pulls away, is that not going to create a mess? AVA. You need a slap man, she is sending you several signs of high INTEREST . You are so out of practise that you cannot recognise them. Women send signals of interest in COVERT ways ( that is the technical word for "very subtle " -ha!) She is giving you the green light dude so start your motor, grab your stick and go for it.
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 You need a slap man, she is sending you several signs of high INTEREST . You are so out of practise that you cannot recognise them. Women send signals of interest in COVERT ways ( that is the technical word for "very subtle " -ha!) She is giving you the green light dude so start your motor, grab your stick and go for it. I've never been in practise, to be brutally honest. I know absolutely nothing about women, and I mean nothing.
AussieJack Posted March 14, 2008 Posted March 14, 2008 (edited) I've never been in practise, to be brutally honest. I know absolutely nothing about women, and I mean nothing. Yeh, most of you guys here are in the same boat. You are cliueless. Stick around and I will give you a crash course. Lets call it Chicks 101. Lesson # 1 Women value emotions and feelings over logic and rational thought. The opposite is true for men. A woman's 'reality ' is her feeling state. What she "feels' is what is TRUE ( to her). Men, get a hold of this notion and belive it - it will explain a lot of what appears to be women's bewildering behavior. Edited March 14, 2008 by AussieJack
Author mlchris2 Posted March 31, 2008 Author Posted March 31, 2008 Hey fellow Shackers... here is an update. Aussie is right, what we have is a friendship. We agreed to take things slow, she just got out of a 2 year relationship. That being said, I have been sitting back and letting things happen. Last night, she made the first move and kissed me. It was totally unexpected. Well, I'm embarrassed... Should I be?
dreamergrl Posted March 31, 2008 Posted March 31, 2008 Hey fellow Shackers... here is an update. Aussie is right, what we have is a friendship. We agreed to take things slow, she just got out of a 2 year relationship. That being said, I have been sitting back and letting things happen. Last night, she made the first move and kissed me. It was totally unexpected. Well, I'm embarrassed... Should I be? No don't be embarrassed, I think she's giving you signals she's ready to start moving more forward
DanielMadr Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 OK Mark,firstly I don't know about your definition of a "semi-serious relationship with a girl" but if you have not even kissed her yet ,then you are merely in a friendship. You want to know how to kiss her ? Do this- Wait until the next time that you are sitting on the couch with her, watching TV. Turn to look at her, and look deeply into her eyes as she turns to look back at you. Slowly stand up and pull her up with you. PLace you left hand under her right ear and slide it around so the your finger tips are on the nape of her neck . PLace your right hand on the small of her back and FIRMLY(but slowly) pull her into you and then KISS her with slow passion. Maintain lip contact for more than 12 seconds..After this slowly sit down without a word and also pull her down with you back into her original sitting postion. (If she does NOT pull away in under 12 seconds and maintains active kissing then you can progress to 'seal the deal' whenever you are ready.) It made my feminine side go wet&'orny. I prefer sitting besides her....you cant get a knee in the groin. But no risk no gain.
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