armywife915 Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Ok so my husband was supposed to be deployed in January. While in training he had an anxiety attack and they diagnosed him as having depression, which meant he could not go to Iraq. Which is wonderful because I wanted him home so bad. Anyways, he got a new job doing security and he makes a lot of money so that I can do what I have always wanted; start a day care in my home. This is great because I love kids and I have always wanted to own my own day care. Bad part is, he just got asked to go to Arkansas for up to 6 weeks. I hate this because I feel like I just got him back and now I have to let him go again. He really wants to go because it's double the pay and we could have a nice chunk to save. I always say I don't care about the money I want more time with him. Not to mention he has been working crazy hours so I barely see him as it is. Does anyone deal with their significant other being away for periods of time? I just don't know what to do with myself. I am working on getting some children but right now I only have 2 so I don't have much to occupy my time. Any ideas? I just wish I didn't feel like money was more important to him. I know it's not but it's hard. Thanks everyone, just needed to rant.
Lisa2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I learned quick that money is only an accessory to your marriage... your relationship is much more important. You don't live to work, you "work to live". I agree that he should savour every bit of time he has with you at home while he's in the service. Time apart is time lost.
carhill Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Military wives are usually a big family. Any support there? Or is reserves different? I'm only familiar with active duty at duty stations. I assume the family drama hasn't abated, correct? Does hubby have access to technology while in Arkansas? I know my friend's kids keep up with their spouses/SO's while on ship through e-mail/webcam/telephone. Pretty cool. Do you think that would help? Get a calendar and mark each day to when he comes home. It'll fly by. Just imagine those who are on-ship or active duty deployed for a year or two with little leave. Wow... Good luck with the daycare!
Author armywife915 Posted March 13, 2008 Author Posted March 13, 2008 There really isn't any other army wives where I live and we are hoping he will get discharged completely. He will be able to stay in contact with me which is good. And family drama never gets any better. I just have to come up with things to do to keep my mind off it. Hopefully I will have a bunch of kids to take care of!!
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