eagle5 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 (edited) Guys is there any sort of a pattern to NC, let me elaborate, it's been about 7 weeks for me now and I've had a couple of BAD days recently. Before that I'd done pretty well. Obviously it's a roalercoaster ride but when have your ups and downs been on a time scale? I just wondered if there is any common pattern we all share?? Edited March 12, 2008 by eagle5
themessenger Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 read my thread called "guys i got her back here's how" in second chances
dfreeman Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 ...it sucked! I had it bad (not as bad as those that had to see their ex everyday for months) in that I was still in the same house for a month and now I still have to talk to her about the house buyout. I have still only put together an 8-day and a 7-day stretch of NC, but man did those stretches help me grow. If you have the means to stay with NC 100% (no obligatory e-mails, children stuff, job association) - JUST DO IT! Stick with it during those hard times and just trust that you will reap the benefits later (even though it hurts like crap at the time). I just had to see my ex today and I could tell she hates that I am not affected by her and don't miss her. A small reward, but I would not have had that good feeling of self-confidence if I were finding little reasons to call her or hanging out waiting for her to throw me a few breadcrumbs. My pattern was a steep roller-coaster for the first 4 weeks, a kiddie roller-coaster ride for the next two weeks, and pretty much bumper-cars over the last three weeks. I felt pretty bad one day last week, but I just remembered some of the good days and know that they are starting to win the battle.
aln186 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 This is going to sound totally nubish but, what is "NC"? No contact?
Author eagle5 Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 This is going to sound totally nubish but, what is "NC"? No contact? Yes exactly.
sedgwick Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 This week is 8 months since the breakup, 6.5 months NC. It definitely gets easier and harder. It's been tough lately, but at this point I know I won't contact him. He knows how to reach me if he wants to talk to me.
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