cutegirl Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Perhaps I'm crazy but isn't it sort of embarrassing to work out together with a guy (or a girl if you're a guy) that you're interested because people usually make "weird faces" when lifting weights, exercising, you know what I mean, THOSE weird faces when you are straining or pushing and it makes you look kinda unattractive... And what about eating, I guess this one can also go for both males and females... Do you ever feel embarrassed eating in front of a member of the opposite sex that you are interested in? I know it's not just me because I have a friend who feels uncomfortable eating in bright lights in front of a guy she likes too (my friend is 30 btw and I'm 29). She actually made her "date" eat in the car (it was just burritos/tacos) and didn't even let him turn on the lights inside the car. I also feel self-conscious eating in front of a guy, messing up my lipgloss, getting food stuck between my teeth etc. Does anyone else feel this way? I don't need advice on my own embarrassment and what to do with it, I just wonder if other people feel the same way?
Nevermind Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Funny enough, I am okay to eat in front of the boyfriend. Stress comes in when there are other people, social gatherings etc. Even a family reunion isn't easy. Working out...no, never. Not in front of anybody I know. I feel awkward about me in general and I just started going to a gym, so having anybody see me being weak and collapsing after lifting weights is not very desireable. --- I know, this makes me the last person to advice you, but maybe you should try to work on your insecurities. You worry about make-up, eating, work-out etc way too much. You should feel good about yourself and show the world who you are. If you are always hiding and being someone else, who could love the real you? If nobody knows it?
Sand&Water Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 RE: Oh. Dear. Eating in the dark? That is a Big No-No. No one should have to eat in the dark; it is unbelievably sad. Very sad. Not only that, but screams major insecurities, within the courting and dating stages -and in all relationships, as well. You should not be ashamed nor embarrassed to eat in front of your date or significant other. Why? Because, he/she is human too! You are not a manikin. There is an exception, though. As long as the other person is able to eat in a proper manner -i.e. little to no mess, chew with their mouth closed, and avoid dropping pieces of food everywhere, like an animal -and have table etiquette then you can lavishly enjoy him/her. Signaling to your date, in my opinion, that you have issues eating in front of him means you will most likely come off as a superficial person. He will definitely pick up on that hint, and run for the door. One last part, men are attracted to those women that eat in almost the same manner as them. And, since you can't run away from eating and food, then you have nothing to worry about. As for the gym. Nope. Exercise with girlfriends or alone, but not with men. It's an egoistic-mental-mechanism. Sand&Water
Author cutegirl Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 RE: Oh. Dear. Eating in the dark? That is a Big No-No. No one should have to eat in the dark; it is unbelievably sad. Very sad. Not only that, but screams major insecurities, within the courting and dating stages -and in all relationships, as well. You should not be ashamed nor embarrassed to eat in front of your date or significant other. Why? Because, he/she is human too! You are not a manikin. There is an exception, though. As long as the other person is able to eat in a proper manner -i.e. little to no mess, chew with their mouth closed, and avoid dropping pieces of food everywhere, like an animal -and have table etiquette then you can lavishly enjoy him/her. Signaling to your date, in my opinion, that you have issues eating in front of him means you will most likely come off as a superficial person. He will definitely pick up on that hint, and run for the door. One last part, men are attracted to those women that eat in almost the same manner as them. And, since you can't run away from eating and food, then you have nothing to worry about. As for the gym. Nope. Exercise with girlfriends or alone, but not with men. It's an egoistic-mental-mechanism. Sand&Water It was actually my friend that ate in the dark not me, she said the guy had to use his cell phone for light in the car (cause she wouldn't let him turn on the lights inside the car) and the cell phone lights keeps turning off automatically after a while. She doesn't consider it a "date" though, she said it was not a date, she just doesn't want to eat in front of him. The guy didn't seem to mind tho, he still is pursuing her a lot. I am not THAT extreme, if I HAVE to then yes of course I can eat in front of a guy but I would prefer no to if I don't absolutely have to.
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 (edited) Perhaps I'm crazy but isn't it sort of embarrassing to work out together with a guy (or a girl if you're a guy) that you're interested because people usually make "weird faces" when lifting weights, exercising, you know what I mean, THOSE weird faces when you are straining or pushing and it makes you look kinda unattractive... And what about eating, I guess this one can also go for both males and females... Do you ever feel embarrassed eating in front of a member of the opposite sex that you are interested in? I know it's not just me because I have a friend who feels uncomfortable eating in bright lights in front of a guy she likes too (my friend is 30 btw and I'm 29). She actually made her "date" eat in the car (it was just burritos/tacos) and didn't even let him turn on the lights inside the car. I also feel self-conscious eating in front of a guy, messing up my lipgloss, getting food stuck between my teeth etc. Does anyone else feel this way? I don't need advice on my own embarrassment and what to do with it, I just wonder if other people feel the same way? Sure they do. Everyone is self consious about it. You just cant let it fuss you. Because uneasiness is worse then ketchup behind your ears. Nervous atmosphere is contagious. Believe me, when you like someone you dont mind watching him eat. So no worries. If he dumps you because you burped, he was not a person to live a life with anyway. Dont bit your nails and pick your nose...thats about it. I repeat: Biggest NO NO is feeling uneasy....and trying to mask it is even worse....or puting lights off when eating or you know what. Edited March 12, 2008 by DanielMadr
blind_otter Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I have no problems eating in front of people in general, and I'm fine eating in front of my SO. Even bbq, which is terribly messy. Personally I hate going to a gym - I feel like I am eating other people's sweat. I can exercise in front of my SO fine. Lord knows, he has definitely seen me make some crazy faces while having sex, so what's the difference?
shanny Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I used to be sooo paranoid about eating in front of a guy I liked, but somehow it's gone away as I've gotten older. Working out with a guy can be kinda sexy so I'm down with that.
Author cutegirl Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 I repeat: Biggest NO NO is feeling uneasy....and trying to mask it is even worse....or puting lights off when eating or you know what. Why is it such a big no no to feel uneasy and why is it even worse to mask it? I think I always feel uneasy around someone I'm interested in and of course I try to mask it.
burning 4 revenge Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I like it when a girl is eating a burrito and she gives me some refried beans off of her tongue
tanbark813 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I have no problem eating in front of a girl I like. And I actually enjoy working out in front of her, or any hot girl for that matter. It makes me push myself more so I don't look like a pussy.
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Why is it such a big no no to feel uneasy and why is it even worse to mask it? I think I always feel uneasy around someone I'm interested in and of course I try to mask it. Of course you do and it is quite cute actually Problem is when out of uneasiness and masking it you make nervous atmosphere. "I dont like it here. Im not hungry! Dont put the lights on!" Different people mask their "flaws" differently. Most girls today mask it the bad way - on first sight you can mistaken them for Clint Eastwood. Know what I mean? Its OK to be nervous. No big deal. Just dont make a drama out of it. Which you dont, so everything is OK
audrey_1 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I used to be nervous about eating in front of a guy, but it's lessened as I've gotten older. I try to eat healthy, anyway, so it's not like I'm stuffing myself with nothing but fat in his presence. I don't mind working out in front of a guy, it makes me push myself harder, and it's sexy. I ran around the track this weekend while he was climbing the stadium bleachers in preparation for climbing Mt. Rainier. I was trying not to noticeably stare at him, but I was very turned on. When I was stretching afterward, he said some sexy things to me that let me know he was turned on, too. It was playful and made me feel good.
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I used to be nervous about eating in front of a guy, but it's lessened as I've gotten older. I try to eat healthy, anyway, so it's not like I'm stuffing myself with nothing but fat in his presence. I don't mind working out in front of a guy, it makes me push myself harder, and it's sexy. I ran around the track this weekend while he was climbing the stadium bleachers in preparation for climbing Mt. Rainier. I was trying not to noticeably stare at him, but I was very turned on. When I was stretching afterward, he said some sexy things to me that let me know he was turned on, too. It was playful and made me feel good. Are you aware of the fact that male genitals shrink during excersise? OK after excersise its another story. Honestly I doubt that people give it the best when work out in front of opposite sex....for a reason not to be seen sweating like a pig and panting like a race horse.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 i don't like to eat in front of people so much. it's just a thing some people have. it takes me a while before i can really chow down comfortably in front of people. and i don't have eating or weight issues, other than that. i also hate communal eating, like cafeterias and the like. ick. as for working out, i'd rather do that alone.
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