FooledOnce Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Over the last few weeks I've been flirting with this girl at work. It was pretty low key but it was enough for a colleague to point out that there is a 'spark' between us. Well, this weekend we had a work party and we'd both had too much to drink (her especially). We were dancing and having fun and she started kissing me. I kissed her back a little bit but tried to stop her since we were in front of all our coworkers. She said she didn't care and was pretty aggressively all over me. Well, i figured we'd given everyone enough to gossip about already so i might as well go for it and took her back to her place (pretty good time). It was my first real action since I'd been dumped in November (after 6 yrs). The next day i felt pretty good about myself. Unfortunately, the new girl called me 5 times and texted me 3 times that day (ut-oh). It's really interesting that being so aggressively pursued made me a lot less into her. A lesson for another discussion, i guess. My real problem: Guess who I've been thinking about ever since?? I mean, seriously, WTF!? I FINALLY get to the point where I can be fun, flirty, and notice chicks and then when i get some action it makes me think of her all over again? Anyone else experience this ever?
J dub Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I am not really surprised the action with another girl made you reminsce even more about the ex. Men are funny like that - until they are OVERRR a woman, being with another just doesnt make things better. The reverse is true for a woman - once shes with someone else, her attachment tends to fall towards the one she was with most recently. The ex is a part of the past and stays in the past (usually). Also, men enjoy being the hunters - this may strike a debate but going all the way back to the stone age where the men were the aggressive ones and women were taken care of and nurturing...when the roles reverse, something doesnt sit right. This girl is definitely coming on wayyy too strong and I can see why you would be like - um, no. Where's the mystery and fun when she doesnt go AWAY? Lesson for the ladies out there: take a note on that one. I've also noticed that men tend to miss a woman the longer theyve been apart (absence makes the heart grow fonder) and yet woman are the opposite (out of sight, out of mind). Strange, us creatures!
atc2410 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 [COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]yes fooledonce have experienced e[/FONT][/COLOR][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]xactly the same. I’ve had a couple of physical encounters since my break up almost 5 months ago and neither made an impact on my getting over the loss of my relationship. In fact as you describe it brings it all to the surface again. Unfortunately I’ve not met a girl before or since who comes close to my ex and for now such encounters only serve to clarify this. It’s all afterthought too. At the time I was just having fun with a great girl, conversing, flirting etc. It’s only afterwards when you’re alone with your thoughts that it all comes rushing back.[/FONT][/COLOR]
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