kiraknight Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I got a job at a credit union as a bank teller. Ive developed a major crush on one of the Human Resources people there, he also trained me for a portion of the week. I seem to have very strong feelings, I think about him alot and during the job he was always on the back of my mind. I would never pursue anything because at this point in my life I dont want a boyfriend. He is about 25/26 Im 20. I guess he isnt that much older but Im still in college. He has a great personality, he’s pretty cute, very funny, patient, nice, seems like a good person in general. He made me quite nervous, especially because during the training he made a lot of eye contact so I felt flustered most of the time and didn’t want to look stupid. This is bad, so far this job has been very stressful and feeling that way didnt help. Im pretty sure he doesnt like me. The eye contact thing I mentioned earlier is most likely because hes a good worker and is confident. Anyway, the last day when some of us were joking around I made one teasing comment (I was obviously joking, everyone was picking on him) and he went "Oh!" and everyone else said "She'll fit in here" and since then he doesnt seem to talk to me but its prob my imagination. The most he might think is that Im attractive. I am an attractive girl, Ive had alot of guys tell me Im pretty. Not only that I can tell by his attitude about work that he would not flirt/pursue anyone in the work environment which makes me like him more. He mentioned a coworker who is expecting and remarked to me that he is only a little older than her and that hes so far away from making a family. He is really friendly and nice to me but hes a very nice guy. My brother who is close to his age worked there too for a little while so that prob is part of it. (why he is so friendly other than his personality) This may not be a big deal but Im a hard worker. Its such an overwhelming job, I had no idea itd be this hard and I want to do the best I can. My aunt is the manager and I feel like I only got in there because Im related to her and want to prove that Im worthy. Its so much to remember, combined with this stupid crush, im relieved to get away and im not looking forward to starting this job full time in the summer. Will this go away with time? He will be there when I go back and I will be at this bank all summer.
canadian_jeff Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Although I am sure you are worth all the attention you were given as far as a partner goes, I truly believe you have the wrong read on this situation. His job is to make people feel welcome and employee retention. Although your aunt may be the manager there, there is a reason they have hired you for the position. Its tough to find good people, and when you do you make every effort to feel comfortable, As far as the comment about his family or lack of in the near future. He is sharing a small part of his personal life with you in order to build a relationship. Managers will often do this to build trust. I am not in anyway saying this in a bad way, but he is being a professional manager. Making eye contact is a very strong form of communication and effective managers are the best communicators. Also, I have never met a HR person I did not love
carhill Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Will this go away with time? Ever been infatuated? If yes, how does this compare? If no, and it's not gone by summer, you're in trouble Best solution for an infatuation is a boyfriend, but you don't want that. I can say, what once started as something I thought was an infatuation long ago has continued throughout my life for nearly 25 years and through my marriage, despite my best efforts to make it go away, long before LS and its great advice even existed. So, my fervent hope is that you don't get my brand of whatever it is. My experience over the years is that infatuations (the normal kind) lasted a few months or until I asked the person out and they declined. I don't recall ever having a girlfriend grow out of an infatuation, rather out of friendships I had that deepened over time. Some might disagree, but you could always get some advice from your aunt. I'm sure she's seen it all
Green Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 If your hot and you want him just charm him with your hump, your lovely lady humps
Hoffle Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I had a crush on a work colleague, I managed to get over it when I found she was taken.
Author kiraknight Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 The point of my post wasnt to find out if he liked me or anything. Im not that stupid- I know he is just being a good manager because at my old job I was the same way whenever someone new came. Strong eye contact is professional he just made me nervous all the time. I have tended to only like people near my age who are my friends so I have no experience whatsoever in this and Im only worried because this is not a job where I want to be flustered all the time. Im not that close to my aunt, I would be mortified if I talked to her about this. She would go straight to him or it would get to him and I would never want him to know since I have to interact with him alot. I will prob. never mention it to anyone and hope it goes away.
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