juliebijoux Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 So, I went out on a second date with this guy and we had a great flirtatious time bowling followed by a great evening out and now I am high on endorphins. Normally I am very grounded and serious. People at my work told me that I just look really, really happy and slightly distracted. And I even referred to myself as a "smitten kitten" (which I am mortified that I actually said that out loud). However, I don't really know how to proceed. This guy has never been in a relationship (he's 26) , yet he told me does want to be in one. He also told his friends that he wants a relationship in general. In the past he has had only one or two time hook-ups. I have had only relationships, no casual hook-ups. I told him that my brain is just not wired to merely hook-up. Do you think that it is possible for a guy to change from just hook-ups to actually being in a relationship?
eDave Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 (edited) Sounds like you are thinking too much. No problem I do it all the time. Have you two "hooked up"? If not, then that scenario does not apply. If that is all he wants then it would have happened already. You know he wants a relationship and you have been out twice now. Sounds like it is progressing as it should. If he asks you out for a third date, well that is FAR from a "hook up". Third date is when you will know. And, in my opinion, intimacy is appropriate and expected at this point. So if that happens, don't think it is the "hook up". It's natural progression. If it doesn't, and you may have to initiate since he is new to this, then you are buds. Don't overthink it or you will ruin the very thing you want and will create the scenario you fear. Relax and enjoy the enjoyment. And if it doesn't work out, remember that endorphin rush and it will power you onto the next opportunity. Just my $.02 Edited March 12, 2008 by eDave
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