bmrrll07 Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. We agreed to take things slow,for two reasons. Frist because we work together and second because we both have been burned in the past. The last month has been going great. Getting really close, talking more often then before. Making plans a few days before. Then last sunday we were texting each other, some x rated stuff. And all of a suddun he texts me with " hey--still keepin it simple right? " I texted back " huh? " Then he texts " emotion aside friends& benefits?/friends" I ended up just texting back " ya don't worry " I was a little pissed I'm not sure what happened or what I should do. I either end the sexual part of things, or just let it go for awhile and see what happens. What would you do?
carhill Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Why were you pissed? I presume "taking it slow" means little emotional engagement. Since you were sexual early on, FWB makes sense. Was that agreed upon? I think it might be time for a reassessment, if I'm reading the OP right. Are you willing to let him go?
Author bmrrll07 Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 ya it was agreed upon. and i thought things were going forward. then this text just confused me. i guess is was more hurt then anger. i've thougtht about walking away before (my own issues not his) but i can't seem to walk away. i know i'm starting to fall for him. and if he only sees this as a fwb thing , i would have to let him go, so i don't get hurt.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Are you looking for a long term relationship with this guy? If yes, I don't think you should waste your time with him. I hope you're not developing feelings for him, he's not exactly relationship material. He's not seeing you as potential gf material, he's fixated on the whole aspect of FWB.
Author bmrrll07 Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 i've been in the situation before and i know hes not just looking for a peice of ass he has said he was sorry that things got sexual so soon
carhill Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 OK, try this. Talk to him face to face about your feelings, ask for his perspective and, if divergent, suggest that the two of you take a break to reassess. That sound workable?
Author bmrrll07 Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 looks like i got some thinking to do but thank you for the advice
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