Author bethann Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 sorry about the babble above. i was just in a mood to bitch. but i am NOT going to that party. I am not going to be sad all night seeing him with or without her. I m not ready to see him yet.
BlueHaiku Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 Rant all you need Bethann. Get it out. But stand strong on this. Stop blaming her - it's not her, it's him. As long as you blame her for him leaving you, you will be excusing his lack of integrity and bad behavior. As long as you blame her, you'll want him back. But it wasn't her. It was he who betrayed you. Don't forget that, lest you get him back and let him betray you again.
Author bethann Posted March 28, 2008 Author Posted March 28, 2008 I know I shouldnt hate her, but I cant help it. The whole time Rick and i were together, she was the one girl who I just KNEW was a threat to me. I would never let her name be brougt up in front of me. Now I know to trust my gut. He has had alot of gfs, but for somereason he just never got over her. I STILL remember and will never forget the look on his face when he first saw her at that party, total, complete and utter love, like he wanted to just grab her and go right then and there. It took me a while to realize what his expression meant, but now I know. (he NEVER looked at me like that) He loves her. Ok, I can say it, he loves her, he has for a long time, all his friends knew it, some of his old gfs knew it. One even told me a long time ago that no matter what, and I will quote "He has loved her since they were 16" 16??? Holy ****. That is a long time. I believe that now.
Author bethann Posted April 1, 2008 Author Posted April 1, 2008 I didnt go to the party lastweekend. I am trying tobe strong and today it is not working .she was with him and his friends at that party. i dont know if they went together or not. he has called me 4 times only. he called me back yesterday. i called him sat nite, no answer so i hung up. we talked for like 5 minutes. i asked him how he was, 'fine', then he askes how i am , i said ok. that i missed him. he said he missed me to but maybe we just need some space. i asked how the party was he said fun. he didnt ask where i was at all. it was a wierd talk. like a wall was up. last nite i drove by his house after work it was late, no lites on and her car was there. i cried all the way home.
soulseeker Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 I didnt go to the party lastweekend. I am trying tobe strong and today it is not working .she was with him and his friends at that party. i dont know if they went together or not. he has called me 4 times only. he called me back yesterday. i called him sat nite, no answer so i hung up. we talked for like 5 minutes. i asked him how he was, 'fine', then he askes how i am , i said ok. that i missed him. he said he missed me to but maybe we just need some space. i asked how the party was he said fun. he didnt ask where i was at all. it was a wierd talk. like a wall was up. last nite i drove by his house after work it was late, no lites on and her car was there. i cried all the way home. I know this sucks, but the best thing for you to do is move on. No contact with this guy. Why would you want to talk to him? Everytime you do, you take a big step back. Honestly, if you loved him, I dont think you'll benefit from talking to him until you can be happy for him with that girl. Set small goals. You'll get there. When my ex and I broke up, from that day we did not talk for six months!! At all. Was the best thing I ever did for myself. Now, I could hang out with him as a friend. I got over him and found a really great guy who loves ME. Someone once told me that for the first 3 mos after a breakup, one is expected to breath and sleep. Three months later, I bet you'll feel a lot better. Hang in there.
Author bethann Posted April 2, 2008 Author Posted April 2, 2008 Ok, my first post didnt post for some reason. So I will repost, But this is just so ****ing funny that I had to post it again. Ricks ex, is STILL DATING THE BOUNCER GUY!!! She has no intention of going back to Rick. She was at that party last weekend, she had to much to drink and so Bouncer boy (Very hot guy by the way) went to pick her up and they left her car at Ricks so she wouldnt get towed! How do I know? Well, i went to the bar to check out this bouncer guy. He is HOT, HOT, HOT, and i told him about her and rick. He laughed and said "he can try all he wants, in fact he has to get in line she gets hit on all the time, so what? look at her, she is beautiful inside and out. She is out of his league anyway. Then he told me to forget him, the guy is a liar and a player THAT is why she dumped him, he lied to her too. he cheated on her too. She likes him as a friend only, and that even if she was single, she would NOT go back to him at all." Then he told me that he trusts her. She told him Rick has been calling and texing her, she is not leading him on at all, just being nice. They do know alot of the same people. She is not the type to drag out drama. So Rick lied to me about her being independnet, she dumped him cuz he lied to her! he cheated on her! Jake (bouncer) said she is a sweetheart and he has never met anyone like her and they are in a very good place, the best relationship he has ever had and that Rick can try all he wants. She is not going back to him at all. I told him her car has been there a few times in the past few weeks, he said yea, I know, she bought one of your puppies. I am just shocked. BUT I am not going back to Rick. At much as this all hurts he needs to grow up. I still hurt alot and wish things were different, but at least I know SHE didnt get him.
Chinook Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 Sorry Bethann but you were rebound gal. Sometimes that works out, more often than not though, it doesn't. It's bad and it's heart-breaking for the person who gets involved with these people. You're well shut of him. Learn from it and move on. Also, for what it's worth, what the bouncer guy said to you... that makes a whole lot of sense. Thing is though, I think he's kidding himself too. She wouldn't have responded to your ex if she wasn't interested. Piquing someone's interest by asking 'but why do you want to know?' is a nice subtle little head game which will keep him hooked. She's not being friendly, she's covering her bases imho.
dreamergrl Posted April 2, 2008 Posted April 2, 2008 OP - It's not important anymore about the details of his relationship with his ex. No matter how it is or was going down. He hurt you, he's left you to go after her several times, he's no good for you. Don't put yourself into THEIR triangle. Take yourself out of the equation. I personally wouldn't take what any of those three have to say seriously. It sounds like HUGE game for all of them. Soap Opera material. You will never be able to move on by checking up on him, driving past his house, calling him, turning calls, going to see the person she has been dating, ect ect... Take him out of your contact lists, ignore him, and don't fall for any crap when he comes back running because later on you'll be right back where you are now. It's time to start fresh.
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