Allimichelle77 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm new to this website/forum as of today so I apologize if I sound like too much of a noob. I'm looking to get some suggestions about what my boyfriend and I should choose to do in the current situation we are in. Anyway, here goes. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months after being really good friends for about a year and a half. At the moment, I am in my second semester of graduate school and I live in an apartment which is 40 minutes away from where he lives. I have class and/or work Mondays-Thursdays and I my boyfriend usually sleeps over at my apartment at least once during these days. After I'm done whatever it is I have to do on Thursday, I head over to his apartment and stay until Monday morning when I drive back to school. Basically, it feels like we are living together because we are with each other more often than not. The confusion about our situation will begin after the summer is over. My lease is up in August and since my roommate is moving into a house with her boyfriend, I was planning on finding a one bedroom apartment for myself. My boyfriend will be moving to a different city to begin Nursing School and this will put us about an hour away from each other. My initial plan was to rent out an apartment- for 2 semesters- until I'm ready to do my internship(Summer 2009), and then move in with my boyfriend for my last 2 semesters of school and intern in the city he'll be living in. We also talked about getting engaged in Summer 2009. The thing that has me on the fence is whether I should just move in with my boyfriend when my current apartment lease is up, opposed to getting a new apartment. He is buying the place so I wouldn't be paying rent, but I would of course help him with the utilities, etc. I've made a list of what I think are the pros and cons of choosing to live with my boyfriend versus buying a new apartment for myself, and I was wondering if anyone could offer any additional feedback to help me make my decision. Pros -we would obviously get to live with each other, which we both are ready for -i wouldn't have to pay $515/mo + utilities to live in a place where I probably wouldn't even being staying on thursdays-mondays Cons -gas money driving back and forth all the time -the long drive 3-4 times a week -losing the excitement of "moving in with each other" when we decide to become engagedm, which we are both worried about
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