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iwish Established Member

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I did it, i got through my first day without hassling the girl.. I was tempted first thing this morning, heck i was tempted all day.. just to say 'i miss you' (yeah i know that bloody cycle again).. but i didn't...

 

I read a few things on LS and it helped me control myself... so thanks..

 

Now i'm feeling quite good(ish) about the fact that i didn't do it and i'm going to go to Salsa class..

 

be on here later no doubt :(

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I did it, i got through my first day without hassling the girl.. I was tempted first thing this morning, heck i was tempted all day.. just to say 'i miss you' (yeah i know that bloody cycle again).. but i didn't...

 

I read a few things on LS and it helped me control myself... so thanks..

 

Now i'm feeling quite good(ish) about the fact that i didn't do it and i'm going to go to Salsa class..

 

be on here later no doubt :(

 

 

Congrats.. Its definatly hard the first day! but you did it, you got through it.. Its just habit.. Stay strong and if you are tempted again jump on LS im sure there someone to talk you out of it..

 

Good Luck!

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just stay strong dude

 

remember you have to stop harassing your ex and respect her wishes of no contact

 

it's tough...but take a look from her perspective...would you want someone doing what you were doing back

 

good luck

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well thanks guys, i had a good time at salsa, didn't even think of her.. but then i left, and boy was i sad.. damn i miss her... the journey home was a nightmare, i was on the tube, just remembering how we used to go home together, kissing, holding hands all that stuff.. and now i'm doing it on my own.. damn i miss her..

 

but i won't contact her.. i know that's not the way to go.. i just can't understand why she doesn't miss me too.. damn! it makes you just want to cry.. :'(

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Congrats on making it 24 hours! You will feel so much better after you've made it a week, 2 weeks, etc. Keep it up!! :)

 

ETA: Hey, I just realized it's been 3 weeks today for my NC with the OM. See, I don't even count the days anymore like I used to!!

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Hey congrats on the 3 weeks!! and i can't wait until i stop counting!..

Well it's the morning and it sucks :(.. I wonder what she's doing? I wonder if she misses me? I wonder if she see's me as a loser now?

 

It's like yes, since we broke up, i have been up and down with my emotions, but really that's not the point!! that's now why we broke up, we broke up for other reasons, reasons that she lied about and i hate the fact that those reasons seem to be forgotten, now the reasons seem to be what has happened since we broke up...

 

It hurts me that she has said, that if i'd have just given her some time then we could be back together, that's ball!, i really believe that whatever way i handled this we would still be broken.. oh i don't know, i'm just venting as i really really don't want to break No Contact..

 

I want to learn to enjoy my life without thinking of her! all i can remember are the good times, why can't she?! I was bloody good to her.. and the point is, she just didn't love me enough to put me first...

 

damn, i am so bloody miserable...

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Congrats Iwish! i want to be able to move on as well. My ex told me that last week. I know its hard but if they want us to, there isn't a choice. Im trying to do NC also. Her birthday is coming up in 2 days. not sure should i get her anything. Im not sure what her response will be.

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thanks loveinlife, it's bloody hard trying to move on.. I'm not ready for that yet.. I am taking each day at a time, and trying bloody hard to do NC.. i still have the hope that she might miss me, now that i'm giving her time..

 

I mean, surely if she really did ever love me she will call me at some point in the future? If she doesn't then she couldn't have ever loved or cared about me.. i really do believe that, they will call!, they have to!!!! or maybe i'm kidding myself? either way i need that hope right now, it gets me through the NC thing..

 

As for the birthday, that's a toughy..

If you got her something then the NC would have to start again, but then it shows you're thinking of her, but then she already knows that!!! it's tricky.. i think that someone else on here is best to advise on that as i'm still struggling to cope myself.

 

keep up the NC though, it's the only way forward :(

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Keep up the NC, iwish.

Your doing great.

The first day is definitely hard. It gets a bit harder for a while but I promise it gets better.

Today is 42 days NC for me. I cant even remember what his voice sounds like etc... All thats left is this vague memory of him.

I still love him to death though.

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AAAAAAGGHHHHHH!!!!, 48 Hours and i'm going mad, it would be so easy just to send a text to say i miss her, damn!!!

 

I won't don't worry, but man o man do i want to...

 

I can't help but feel sooo sad :(, i'm out again tonight and well it beats sitting at home moping, which is what i'll do when i do get there..

 

I can't help but feel that she might contact me one day, in a few weeks.. but then, what if she doesn't.. Will i be strong enough by then? I hope so..

 

For now i need to believe that maybe she will contact me, i've not let her miss me yet and now is her chance to miss me and remember the good times.. and they were good, that can't have just been in my head..

 

I just can't believe that she hasn't contacted me!!

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Aww Hang in there.

The first few days are HELL.

You HAVE to go out and get your mind off it.

My advice. GO OUT NOW!! :)

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AAAAAAGGHHHHHH!!!!, 48 Hours and i'm going mad, it would be so easy just to send a text to say i miss her, damn!!!

 

dude

 

stay strong

 

don't do it man...don't fall back in the old pattern and leave your ex alone

 

if you love her...then you should respect her wishes

 

there's only so many times you can repeat your actions again and again...to the point where your ex totally loses respect for you (which causes loss of love)

 

...you probably have to wait a month before she would contact you or if she contacts you

 

best to work on yourself and your issues

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NO SENDING BIRTHDAY PRESENTS OR WISHES TO EX'S!

 

A birthday is NOT your legitimate excuse to try to snake your way back in. Stop thinking that NOW (I know that wasnt the OPs post but still, sheesh).

 

Seriously, you will NOT get the response you are hoping for. If at ALL. Dont do it, dont put yourself out there like that for the wolves.

 

To the OP:

one day at a time my friend. Its a process, thats for sure - but keep in mind that she too has a keyboard on several means of electronics and she's not coming to you either. That should tell you quite enough. If she has anything to say to you, she will seek you out.

 

Keep putting yourself first. You matter most now!!!!!

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Well, i had a good night tonight, hardly thought of my ex at all!!! that's a good sign i think..

 

but i still miss the girl.. if i can just hand on it'll be 3 days, woo hoo...

hope your all doing well too.. and thanks again, if it weren't for this place who knows what i would've done.

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Well, i had a good night tonight, hardly thought of my ex at all!!! that's a good sign i think..

 

but i still miss the girl.. if i can just hand on it'll be 3 days, woo hoo...

hope your all doing well too.. and thanks again, if it weren't for this place who knows what i would've done.

 

Hey! I just came on to see how you were doing! Congrats on making it this far! It gets better with time. And of course you will still miss her. But keep up the NC!!!! You'll be so glad you did! :)

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is it just me or are the mornings the hardest part? well it'll soon be 3 days no contact... just one day of work and i'm there, and you know what, i think it's getting easier!!

 

i'm not out tonight :( so that is going to be a tough one.. i just need to relax

she'll call me one day i hope, i think i apologised enough and made it clear that i love her, so she has to get over that right?!

 

Don't get me wrong, i'm not just doing this NC thing to get her back, it's for me to get used to a life without her and one day i'm sure i won't care so much..

 

but for now i have to hope she thinks of the good times and forgets the break up times, which in all fairness to me, isn't what i'm about..

 

damn, i still miss her.. hey ho, of to work i go...

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Don't get me wrong, i'm not just doing this NC thing to get her back, it's for me to get used to a life without her and one day i'm sure i won't care so much..

 

Good, that's the spirit! reminds of my first post, almost the same words:

Oh, and btw, this NC thing is for me to heal faster. I'm not doing it to get her back or make her regret the two of us: however much I would love that, it seems so improbable that I'd prefer moving on rather than keep on hoping desperately.

 

Apparently they say NC gets easier over time. Even in my case, when I see her every single day with her new bf, ignoring her and not stalking her has helped me a lot. I'm still far from healed, but getting there! Good luck, and bravo for your first 3 days!

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Wow Belkin, i'm sorry you have to see that every day.. that's harsh..

 

See that's the other thing, we used to work together and we broke up a couple of times but because i managed to see her we always got back together.. Now it just seems impossible because we are never in a position to see each other without making a phone call..

 

anyway keep up the good work yourself, i hope both of us have a happy ending one way or another : )

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is it just me or are the mornings the hardest part?

 

Yeah, mornings are the hardest part of my day...she's just not there anymore to take advantage of it! :p

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I did it, i got through my first day without hassling the girl.. I was tempted first thing this morning, heck i was tempted all day.. just to say 'i miss you' (yeah i know that bloody cycle again).. but i didn't...

 

I read a few things on LS and it helped me control myself... so thanks..

 

Now i'm feeling quite good(ish) about the fact that i didn't do it and i'm going to go to Salsa class..

 

be on here later no doubt :(

 

Good For you!:) Nc at the start is tough, however the longer the NC the easier it becomes. Keep yourself busy and stay strong. Best wishes.

 

AP:)

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3 days!! my record!!

 

Who'd of thought it, it's been a tough old day with ups (yes i had some ups) and of course downs.. I was coming home on the tube and that's where i'm normally saddest.. but it wasn't so bad today.. i had my ipod on and just tried not to think too much...

 

I think i'm getting stronger?!

 

I still of course would love for her to contact me and talk to me about how to get it back on track.. but i actually realise that there's nothing i can do to make that happen..

I wish there was, but there just plain and simple isn't.. I have to just get on with my life, talk to friends, come on here and go out as much as i can.

 

I actually feel like not only am i losing the most beautiful girl in the world :(, but she is losing me too! and between us lot, i'm not so bad.. i have some good points.. and i treated her good when we were together, so if she's with another man :(, it won't be the same.. it won't be as good because he's not me! (i have to think that)

 

let's hope i stay this strong for a while

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Well done!!!

 

I must warn you that in a week or two week's time, the strong urges will return..maybe later, maybe nearer.. You will be tempted to send a text or an email or call her or break NC somehow.

 

When this time comes, realise that it is simply part of the process. However, after you resist the urges to contact when these urges return,it will definitely get better.

 

You are doing very well and it must hard. However, prepare for some mental struggles because at some point, you will start to miss her A LOT again.

 

Keep posting and you can do. Believe that and try your best not to break NC...xxxx

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