Scooter25 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 So the ex and I of 4 years have been broken up for 8 months now and I haven't contacted her in 5 months. In all honesty I was moving on and moving just fine and having a blast (I am 27 and single after all). During those five months she would e-mail me and text me. I never responded, not even once because I was trying to move on and just live life and improve myself which I did and very well. She finally got the hint I didn't want to speak to her and even mentioned it in her last text message to me on New Years Day. Saturday night she text messaged "Hey long time no talk, anyway I'm in NY and just thought I would say hello." Needless to say I read it and deleted it and kept on having fun with the group of girls I was with. Bring me to today and I'm wondering if I did the right thing. I really did care of her but I want nothing to do with her. I just want to remember our past and move forward without her and don't want her in my life anymore. I mean she's not a bad person there is just no reason to be friends with her especially since I've been seeing someone and she has a new boyfriend, not to mention she did burn me pretty bad and knows I'm the type of person that never forgets when they've been burned. Anyway I was just looking for a little reassurance that I did the right thing by not responding. Sorry if this is long I just needed to vent.
Jasmine8719 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I think you did the right..especially since she hurt you...it was very brave of you to pick your head up and keep moving forward in life, I think if you went backwards you would regret it. I went through a bad break-up about 2 1/2 years ago..we were going out for about 3 years...he cheated, I walked away and never looked back...I'm in a much much much better relationship now and I'm very happy...My ex tried to come back but I just ignored him, and I'm happy sooo happy I didnt go back to him..so keep on moving forward grow and learn from what happend in the past and keep on walking..good luck! -Jasmine
SoStupid Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 So the ex and I of 4 years have been broken up for 8 months now and I haven't contacted her in 5 months. In all honesty I was moving on and moving just fine and having a blast (I am 27 and single after all). During those five months she would e-mail me and text me. I never responded, not even once because I was trying to move on and just live life and improve myself which I did and very well. She finally got the hint I didn't want to speak to her and even mentioned it in her last text message to me on New Years Day. Saturday night she text messaged "Hey long time no talk, anyway I'm in NY and just thought I would say hello." Needless to say I read it and deleted it and kept on having fun with the group of girls I was with. Bring me to today and I'm wondering if I did the right thing. I really did care of her but I want nothing to do with her. I just want to remember our past and move forward without her and don't want her in my life anymore. I mean she's not a bad person there is just no reason to be friends with her especially since I've been seeing someone and she has a new boyfriend, not to mention she did burn me pretty bad and knows I'm the type of person that never forgets when they've been burned. Anyway I was just looking for a little reassurance that I did the right thing by not responding. Sorry if this is long I just needed to vent. You did do the right thing.. You contact her on your time.(if you want to of course) But I do agree with Jasmine I think if you float backwards you will sink right back to day one of the break up! good luck and stay strong.. -SoStupid
Issues & tissues Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I second the posts above - you so did the right thing! I unfortunately didn't. I saw my ex yesterday and today has been as though the last 6 weeks of NC had been completely erased. *sigh*
Author Scooter25 Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Basically, I'm just curious if she will ever really realize that I want nothing to do with her and don't want to hear from her anymore. I mean I have done a ton of things to improve myself since we broke up and I don't want to go backwards. It's funny because I can go weeks without hearing from her then I do and all these emotions come rushing through me. I'll be angry, sad, glad, miserable, etc..... I do feel good knowing that I don't want to respond because I know for a fact I'm in control.
SoStupid Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm just curious if she will ever really realize that I want nothing to do with her and don't want to hear from her anymore. Eventually yes, just stick to your guns and dont let her manipulate your thoughts and feelings.. If its over and you want no contact. KEEP IT THAT WAY! for your feelings not hers.. You are doing good....
Jasmine8719 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I think she will eventually get the picture, and eventually you being angry, sad etc. well go away as well. It all just takes time..but just keep on going don't look back..dont do it lol...It will all be good..go get something yummy for lunch. -Jasmine
serendip Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Have you told her that you didn't want contact with her at any point (please don't contact me anymore)..or did you just ignored her this entire time?
Meaplus3 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 So the ex and I of 4 years have been broken up for 8 months now and I haven't contacted her in 5 months. In all honesty I was moving on and moving just fine and having a blast (I am 27 and single after all). During those five months she would e-mail me and text me. I never responded, not even once because I was trying to move on and just live life and improve myself which I did and very well. She finally got the hint I didn't want to speak to her and even mentioned it in her last text message to me on New Years Day. Saturday night she text messaged "Hey long time no talk, anyway I'm in NY and just thought I would say hello." Needless to say I read it and deleted it and kept on having fun with the group of girls I was with. Bring me to today and I'm wondering if I did the right thing. I really did care of her but I want nothing to do with her. I just want to remember our past and move forward without her and don't want her in my life anymore. I mean she's not a bad person there is just no reason to be friends with her especially since I've been seeing someone and she has a new boyfriend, not to mention she did burn me pretty bad and knows I'm the type of person that never forgets when they've been burned. Anyway I was just looking for a little reassurance that I did the right thing by not responding. Sorry if this is long I just needed to vent. Yes..I believe you did the right thing. If you had repsonded she might have taken it as though you still had interest, when it sounds like you have moved on. Good luck. AP:)
Author Scooter25 Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Yes and no, the last time I spoke to her I told to take care and be safe and to stop signing her e-mails with "I do still love you." Before that I told her that don't take it the wrong way but I'm going to have a hard time doing the friend thing. I found out she had a new boyfriend and cut her out of my life for good. She knows I'm the type of person to roll right along and not look back so I don't know why she keeps trying to contact me. New Years Day she even said "I know you don't wnat to hear from me but Happy New Year." Nice on her part but it just isn't necessary she was the one that wanted to move on from me, so do it.
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