planoprez Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm a bit confused over this woman I recently met online. We talked for a about a month and met up at a coffee house . Apparently she had one of her female friends there who was sitting a few tables back. I know this because I went to use the restroom and came up behind them talking. I overheard her friend say that I was very cute. I suppose my date invited her friend for safety reasons, it's interesting to me why her friend said I was cute, I overheard my date also say "he probably feels I'm not even in his league". Those statements baffle me. Anyways, I'm going out of town this Friday and she txt'd me yesterday saying she wanted to meet up before I left. I invited her over and we hung out, my main question is I can't really tell if she is interested. She complimented me on having a nice well kept home. When we talk, I notice her playing with her hair a good deal, her touching me on the knee, she laughs at my jokes but at the end of the night she didn't seem very receptive to me giving her a hug. I did tell her we need to back out when I get back into town. She seemed excited. One of the othe parts that baffle me is that I've been single for about 4 years, her comment was "I can't figure it out, why you're single. There is something you're not telling me".
Author planoprez Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 That's good to know, but how do you reach that conclusion? She didn't seem receptive to the hug, I wonder if her friend thought I was ugly as a dog she would feel the same. I think a woman's friends can greatly influence their rationale...just my opinion. I don't believe a woman would want to be with a guy if her friends thought he wasn't a catch
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Yeah, she's interested, I'd be a baffled by this I can't figure it out, why you're single. There is something you're not telling me". Than anything else.
Author planoprez Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 i tried to answer that question of hers....I'm picky and I suppose I am shallow. She laughed and said she is both of those...but that there has to be something else. She said I think you may be one of those guys who a happy being alone.
NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 If she touches you, comes over to your house, plays with her hair, etc., she's interested. Not all girls want a lot of physical contact on the first or second date. I've had more than a few first dates which ended in a hug where the second date went further. I'm confused - if her friend told her that you were cute, then you should be in good shape. As far as the question goes - "I'm picky" is the best answer.
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 i tried to answer that question of hers....I'm picky and I suppose I am shallow. She laughed and said she is both of those...but that there has to be something else. She said I think you may be one of those guys who a happy being alone. How strange, well are you one of these guys that's happy being alone, or do you feel you need someone in your life?
Author planoprez Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 I wouldn't say I am happy, I am content. I would rather be alone and content, than with the wrong person and miserable. My bigger concern is how to tell another girl I am dating that I am no longer interested in her. I really want to see where things go with this girl I mentioned in this post. Any suggestions how to nicely end things with another girl I am dating? I called it off with her once, and she wanted to try again and I did. I'm going to feel pretty bad about ending it again but I just don't feel the interest there with the other girl.
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Just be straightforward and tell her you don't feel any chemistry between you two and that you would like to take your chance with someone else who you've met. She'll be gutted at first, but at least she knows where she stands, it would be worse for you if you prolong telling her.
AussieJack Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 One of the othe parts that baffle me is that I've been single for about 4 years, her comment was "I can't figure it out, why you're single. There is something you're not telling me". OK, AussieJack is gonna translate this piece of womanspeak for y'all. It means this ." I find you interesting, attractive and very eligible and I cannot figure out why some other woman has not snapped you up and locked you into a relationship. The fact that you are still single mystifies me and I am sure that there is an underlying reason that you are not 'spoken for'..Perhaps you have some dark personal secret. In fact I am sure your there is some sinister thing about yourself that you have not told me about ." See how simple womenspeak is to de-code..
AussieJack Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 My bigger concern is how to tell another girl I am dating that I am no longer interested in her. I really want to see where things go with this girl I mentioned in this post. Any suggestions how to nicely end things with another girl I am dating? I called it off with her once, and she wanted to try again and I did. I'm going to feel pretty bad about ending it again but I just don't feel the interest there with the other girl. DO NOT BREAK UP with the first girl. NO NO NO !! You need options, not a single minded pursuit of a woman that you just met and have only had one date with.. Miss#2 may be a psycho. needy, manipulative head case. You do not know anything about her yet EXCEPT that you and she are drawn to each other -that is NOT ENOUGH yet dude .You never cash in your account at one bank without opening another at the bank down the street. Get it ?
Author planoprez Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Wow...nice decryption! That does make things clearer. I just got a text from her saying "she can't figure it out..nice home, young adult, great career, nice car and single. It's driving me nuts"
NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Wow...nice decryption! That does make things clearer. I just got a text from her saying "she can't figure it out..nice home, young adult, great career, nice car and single. It's driving me nuts" I get the same question all the time, from girls I date to people in the office, to married friends I have. Best answer is I'm picky - tell her you go on plenty of dates and just have not met someone who piqued your interest yet. It lets her know there's nothing wrong with you and that you're in demand, but selective. I wouldn't use the term shallow to describe yourself again, though, unless you want to be toooo honest. No brainer.
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Wow...nice decryption! That does make things clearer. I just got a text from her saying "she can't figure it out..nice home, young adult, great career, nice car and single. It's driving me nuts" Women always complain, it doesn't matter what you do. You could create a masterpiece from marble for them and they'll still find something to whinge about. She is probably shocked she has found a decent man, I bet she's dated some right bums in her time, that's gotta be the reason. It's either that or she is mad in the head.
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