xpaperxcutx Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm not a huge fan of video games, but provided the occasion I can find myself enjoying playing a game or two. But for some people its basically an addiction, especially for guys. You can't pry their attention away from it, that'll be like trying to change the channel while the guy's watching the superbowl. Is it immature? I think so. I mean I don't mind that a person play it occasionally but when I have to fight video game for a guy's attention, I can't win. ARGH!!!! What can I do to get their attention focused on me?
Arch Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 meh videos games are pleasurable, they feed peoples ego and exploit their pride. Winning is fun, video games provide a object, a means of accomplishing that objective and a reward once the objective is complete.
dreamergrl Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Hide the game I've had the same problem - it went from competing with the video game, to the computer, ect ect and eventually I just cut him off lol
SoStupid Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm not a huge fan of video games, but provided the occasion I can find myself enjoying playing a game or two. But for some people its basically an addiction, especially for guys. You can't pry their attention away from it, that'll be like trying to change the channel while the guy's watching the superbowl. Is it immature? I think so. I mean I don't mind that a person play it occasionally but when I have to fight video game for a guy's attention, I can't win. ARGH!!!! What can I do to get their attention focused on me? Well first off does he know that his video game addiction could possibly strain the relationship.. Honestly I had a bf addicted to video games. Instead of fighting him for his attention/affection I joined in with the game, and actually got really good with the game, Not addicted but good, I found that not fighting the addiction and accepting for what it was made him lose intrested in the game.. Not to mention I kicked his a** and he hated being beaten by his own girlfriend...
shadowofman Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 secretly break the game? I think a court of law would seriously listen to a "Crime of Passion" plea on that one.
SeraBella Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I think a court of law would seriously listen to a "Crime of Passion" plea on that one. *sigh* No one ever wants to do what I wanna do.
DanielMadr Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 1st Dont date nerds. 2nd Invest in lingerie 3rd At least you cant catch STD from Xbox 4th Make it mutual fun, be more interesting or get lost
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 1st Dont date nerds. 2nd Invest in lingerie 3rd At least you cant catch STD from Xbox 4th Make it mutual fun, be more interesting or get lost 1. 2. That could be one successful method, if he even bothers to look at her. 3. Are you suggesting the OP has an STI? 4. Why should the OP get lost? It's not the OP's fault that thier partner is addicted to computer games. A friendly piece of advice would be to hide the power supply to the games console, then maybe you'll get your wish, but becareful what you wish for.
blind_otter Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Hey some people like videogames. I think they are useless. Personally I make it a requirement that the men I date do not play videogames.
Hoffle Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I play videogames sometimes, but I won't sit on them for more than an hour at max and I usually play them when I have little else to do with my time. I've never understood how people can spend hours upon hours playing video games. I'd much rather read or socialise with friends.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 What can I do to get their attention focused on me? Just tell him that he either re-prioritizes his time, or the relationship is over. You have to mean it though, and follow through. Otherwise he will call your bluff and simply continue on like he is doing.
Legend Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Change the station during the super bowl, word will spread and you'll never find a date again!!
DanielMadr Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 1. 2. That could be one successful method, if he even bothers to look at her. 3. Are you suggesting the OP has an STI? 4. Why should the OP get lost? It's not the OP's fault that thier partner is addicted to computer games. A friendly piece of advice would be to hide the power supply to the games console, then maybe you'll get your wish, but becareful what you wish for. Whats SPI? I was suggesting that playing video games is not cheating. Hiding power cables...hmmm....very smooth:rolleyes: When he stops playing for whatever reason, is there anything interesting to work on? You want him to work on you right? To entertain you right? Well you will have to put some effort to this. Watching TV together is not FUN and you cant have sex all day. He has a hobby. He could be in a garage fixing his car. More she will be angry about it the less he will want to spend time with her. When he is playing go and kit a wooly or something. If he is playing 24/7 then ditch him. He wont mind.
DanielMadr Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Just tell him that he either re-prioritizes his time, or the relationship is over. You have to mean it though, and follow through. Otherwise he will call your bluff and simply continue on like he is doing. Yeah stand him against a wall. either he gives in and he is a wussy and lose your respect or its over. Ultimatums my azz.
Pyro Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I'm not a huge fan of video games, but provided the occasion I can find myself enjoying playing a game or two. But for some people its basically an addiction, especially for guys. You can't pry their attention away from it, that'll be like trying to change the channel while the guy's watching the superbowl. Is it immature? I think so. I mean I don't mind that a person play it occasionally but when I have to fight video game for a guy's attention, I can't win. ARGH!!!! What can I do to get their attention focused on me? In the end it will be up to him to focus his attention on you. Try talking to him and tell him how you feel. Compromise with him. Give him time for video games but he should be willing to put aside time as well for you and him. If he decides that he doesn't want to compromise, then ditch the guy. I don't see the appeal in video game addictions.
DanielMadr Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Hey some people like videogames. I think they are useless. Personally I make it a requirement that the men I date do not play videogames. I play videogames once a year for a week or so when the game is really entertainnig (Im picky). But Im planning to play more. I find it really relaxing. It is better than watching TV. You have to concentrate, so you can sharpen your focus skills and you cant think about anything else like bored, annoying, jealous girlfriend. Only problem is, it is time consuming and you dont really produce anything. But thats what relaxation is all about, init.
Nocturnal Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I play plenty of video games, but I am not one to ignore a girlfriend over video games, but I will make time for both and if I get a new game I'll reserve time to play it and make sure my girlfriend knows I will be unavailable during those hours. There are enough hours in a day or week to accompany both. If the case is that he's playing video games all the time and you get little to no attention than obviously you need to let him know. However, if the case is simply that he plays a lot and you don't have an equal time consuming hobby, then perhaps it's time you looked for a hobby yourself. Either way, talk to the guy and see where he stands. Just dont put up ultimatums or get immature and ruin his games or hide stuff, as that will just make him less eager to hear your side of the coin.
NuTuDating Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Video games are fun. In fact, there's lots of reason to choose video games over a girlfriend: 10) A video game always looks as good the next morning. 9) A video game doesn't care if you play another video game. 8) Almost anyone can score with a video game. 7) If you get tired of a video game, you can return it for another one. 6) A video game doesn't mind being shared with your friends. 5) When a video game whines, you know it's just the monitor. 4) You can play video games every day of the month. 3) You can get satisfaction from a video game for just a quarter or two. 2) It doesn't take as long to turn a video game on. 1) With video games, YOU choose the volume and level of difficulty. Seriously, here's what I would do: 1) Show up while he's playing video games in practically nothing. 2) Go down on him. At this point, he should not have an issue choosing you over Mario (if he does, he's gay). 3) When you're done, tell him if he ever wants to experience that again, he'll play with you more than he does the video game.
Pyro Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Video games are fun. In fact, there's lots of reason to choose video games over a girlfriend: 10) A video game always looks as good the next morning. 9) A video game doesn't care if you play another video game. 8) Almost anyone can score with a video game. 7) If you get tired of a video game, you can return it for another one. 6) A video game doesn't mind being shared with your friends. 5) When a video game whines, you know it's just the monitor. 4) You can play video games every day of the month. 3) You can get satisfaction from a video game for just a quarter or two. 2) It doesn't take as long to turn a video game on. 1) With video games, YOU choose the volume and level of difficulty. Seriously, here's what I would do: 1) Show up while he's playing video games in practically nothing. 2) Go down on him. At this point, he should not have an issue choosing you over Mario (if he does, he's gay). 3) When you're done, tell him if he ever wants to experience that again, he'll play with you more than he does the video game. :lmao:
fishtaco Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Meh, any addiction would destroy a relationship, video games don't have monopoly on that. Really when it comes to this, there's no right no wrong, just a matter of perspective. If he wants to spend his life in front of a computer, who's to say he shouldn't? Or maybe he's a jock meat head that rather work out at the gym than spend time with you, same situation. But at the same time, you have your needs. So when you have different and conflicting goals, then you either have to compromise, or get a new relationship. Give him an ultimatum where you both compromise and meet each other half way. He doesn't follow through, lose him. One of my ex GFs wanted to be a dancer (not exotic, dancing with the stars type). She rather practice dancing than spend time with me. So I had a talk with her, it was not reconcilable, and we broke up. I don't fault her for it, that's what she wants, who am I to say I'm more important? But at the same time I can't stay in a relationship like that. Sometimes that's just the way it goes. Luckily, there are always more people out there to date. Sometimes people stay in a dead relationship because they're afraid to be single. Don't do that.
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