T - mac Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 ok well i just got back from Mexico about 2 weeks ago, and well, im 16, and i spent about 4 of my six months in mexico trying to be more than friends with a girl who i just completely fell for. after about 4 months of trying, i just couldnt be friends with someone i liked, and then i found out she had a boyfriend, so i had to come back to the us. i am now over her and we are still very good friends. i also spent all of second simester of last year trying with another girl, who was the first person i have ever had real feelings for, and that didnt work, but we still flirt alot, and are good friends, and she is actually giving me advice in this one too. although i stopped flirting with her when i started to like this girl. ok well now, the first day i was back, i went back to school, and met a freshmen who i hadnt known before, and instantly got a crush on her. and i guess she did too, after 3 days, she asked me if i wanted to walk with her to lunch. i said yes. next day she asked if i liked anyone, i said "yes, you" and she said she liked me too. so then we kept hanging out during lunch. until i got kicked out of my house cus of my dad. i tried to not stress it too much, even though having your dad say he doesnt love you and saying you cant come back anymore is a hard thing to swallow. and i stayed at friends houses for about 3 days, then on the weekend i saw her again, we went to a movie, then i spent the night at her house on sat, and sunday. we had a great time together and got drunk on saturday night, that was lots of fun. then on sunday, when she was asked if we where going out, she said no, that when we went to he movie we wherent going out. and she said that she liked me as just a friend. and now it is monday. my dad let me back in the house, and i just asked her if she liked me, she said only as a friend, and that she changed her mind. now im thinking that its going to be a repeat of what happened in mexico. and i cant be friends with someone i like, but i just dont think its worth it to lose a good friend over that. even though i know thats what i should do. i was really starting to like her, and now i have to deal with this. and im starting to think maybe its me that is doing something wrong. but i dont know what to do. every time i think i have a girl that is just amazing and exactly what i want this is what happens. and now i have to deal with stress and bad grades all over again. and i know im too young to be worrying about these things, but i cant help it, thats what i said after the first girl, and then i met someone amazing in mexico, then i promised myself again that i wouldnt do it again and i met someone here again! what am i doing wrong!
canadian_jeff Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 If you truly want to be with someone, you need to be thier friend. There are reasons why people say "my spouse is my best friend", and I believe that. I think you will learn this as you get older, there will be things you tell your partner you would never tell your "best buddy". Your true wishes, your deepest feelings, your darkest secrets Dont throw friendship away, loving someone begins and ends with it
Author T - mac Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 i know i actually really agree. i think i already have found out. because the 2 others that i talked about are like some of my best friends. the first one i was very close friends with. and the second was my best friend. even though i kinda always liked her even from the beginning. i mean i usually am good friends with the person first, but i think that at least with the second one, because i was such good friends with her, she didnt see me as a boyfriend but more as a friend. thats why i was trying to go straight to the boyfriend girlfriend thing instead of going for friends first, since that hasn't worked for me. but i don't know, im still learning. i think im going to say that i will be her friend still, even though i know it will probably hurt me more than help me. one thing though, i dont know if she is quite mature enough for a relationship, i mean she is really mature especially for her age, but i was just hearing a lot about how she goes out with lots of guys, and the next week she doesnt like them anymore. i don't know, maybe she just ins't ready yet.
Recommended Posts