Andy11 Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 First off i am 33 years, i know not exactly very young. I had been in 3 long term relationships which didnt work out for one reason or another. Recently i went on a date with this girl i found very attractive. We went out, had good time. I thought things were going pretty well. On the 3rd date she tells me that this just isnt going to work. There is no real chemistry between us. I asked her if i had done anything wrong...she said no. There just wasnt a connection for her. Not much i could do there. That was about a week ago and since then, my confidence has decreased and my self esteem has plummetted. I tend to get attached quick and i think i did this time. As usual i was bitten on the rear once again. I should never get my hopes up over a span of a couple dates, but i tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. Not the best habit. So now....i am experiencing mild depression. I feel like the clock is ticking on me and that i will never find the right girl. My friends and family keep telling me that it will happen in due time. I guess i am more wrapped up in my emotions. I just dont want to settle for someone just for the sake of settling since i am not getting any younger. Perhaps i need to work on my self esteem. I sound somewhat desperate at this point. Not a proud moment, but i had to get this out. Thank you for listening and any input or support would be appreciated.
quankanne Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 ah Andy, don't let your insecurities get the best of you (and goodness knows, I understand completely how they can) ... you'll find her when you least expect it. At least this is how it worked for me, and you know what? Everything that happened before seems like a not so pleasant dream that belongs to someone else. I also think you're gonna come to a point where you realize that age and ticking clocks have no bearing on what's really important, that in a sense you're ageless because you've allowed yourself to just receive the good that comes with life and simply enjoy it. And once you do that, once you become secure in that sense, the chicks will seem to appear out of the woodwork. so don't overly bash yourself over this failed romance. The ocean is vast and the fish are many
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Andy, you and I are the same age. I do understand where you're coming from but quank is right. The harder you look, the less you'll find. Relax. Learn to enjoy your life, as is. Find hobbies you can fixate on. Remember, once you get involved, the less free time you have.
burning 4 revenge Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Andy, you and I are the same age. I do understand where you're coming from but quank is right. The harder you look, the less you'll find. Relax. Learn to enjoy your life, as is. Find hobbies you can fixate on. Remember, once you get involved, the less free time you have.I'm the same age and I agree. Learn to embrace the big empty
Author Andy11 Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 I feel like i will never meet a girl that i am attracted to. My fear is settling down for the sake of settling down because i am getting older. Anyone else in this kind of funk? All i want is a nice, cute girl to share my life with. Is that too much to ask for? Life stinks at this point.
AvgJoeDoe Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 well im not there yet but you got to think about the important element "What is in her heart for you". Dont seek attractive women who are shallow inside, look for someone that you will love for how she is inside. beauty fades away through time and if there was no love just attraction you will get stuck in a bad spot.
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