guitarfreak Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 my ex gf that broke up with me a month ago contacted me yesterday night.. she wants to catch up on things..but heres the twist.. my friends told me that she talks to them and wants me as a friend.. but during the phone call we had about catching up on things.. i asked her.. "so what made you call me and want to catch up on things?" she then said.. "i was actually waitin for u to call me.. because i thot u needed time and space" i then said.. " but u were the one who wanted time and space in the first place not me.." then she said.. " but i know that you will always be the one hurtin more.. it took me a week to get over you.." i still want her back.. i miss her every single day when i initiated no contact for a month..what should i do.. i know for a fact that shes been out every single day with her friends and has been really busy with other stuff too.. she wants to hang out this weekend..but wants to catch up as friends though..i dont know if its a good idea because.. i still love her.. and it might bring more pain seeing her and know that she used to be my gf and now shes not .. i just really want her back.. i dont thikn we can just be friends because it hurts me too much..
xpaperxcutx Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 You should be doing the same things as her, trying to move on with your life, partying, focusing on yourself. It's very inconsiderate of your ex to even contact you and to even make plans with you to "hang out as friends" when she knows you still have feelings for her. Do not give her an ego boost by saying you want to hang out with her. If anything cancel and reschedule. Make it known to her that you're not making her a priority.
CaliGuy Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Only took her a week to get over you, eh? That'd be enough for me to erase her out of my life for good, if I were in your shoes. Don't hang out with her. Don't give her the pleasure of your company. Instead, get together with YOUR friends and make your life so busy that you don't even have time to think about her. The best revenge is a life well lived (without her!). Cheers.
Crestfallen_KH Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I agree with CaliGuy. If anyone said it only took him a week to get over me and the relationship had lasted longer than say, a month, he would be history. She's being incredibly insensitive. I would just blow her off from now on, personally.
J dub Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Only took her a week to get over you, eh? That'd be enough for me to erase her out of my life for good, if I were in your shoes. Don't hang out with her. Don't give her the pleasure of your company. Instead, get together with YOUR friends and make your life so busy that you don't even have time to think about her. The best revenge is a life well lived (without her!). Cheers. As per usual, the ever amazing CG has the right idea. Especially the last sentence (I am currently fighting to continue on that road myself, but the whole mystery aspect helps)
CaliGuy Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 As per usual, the ever amazing CG has the right idea. Especially the last sentence (I am currently fighting to continue on that road myself, but the whole mystery aspect helps) Awww, J Dub, the love of my life! Where have you beeeeeeen?
sumdude Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 "so what made you call me and want to catch up on things?" she then said.. "i was actually waitin for u to call me.. because i thot u needed time and space" i then said.. " but u were the one who wanted time and space in the first place not me.." then she said.. " but i know that you will always be the one hurtin more.. it took me a week to get over you.." Hmmm. FWIW? Seems like maybe she was looking for an ego boost at your expense. Yankin' your chain so to speak.
Issues & tissues Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 my ex gf that broke up with me a month ago contacted me yesterday night.. she wants to catch up on things..but heres the twist.. my friends told me that she talks to them and wants me as a friend.. but during the phone call we had about catching up on things.. i asked her.. "so what made you call me and want to catch up on things?" she then said.. "i was actually waitin for u to call me.. because i thot u needed time and space" i then said.. " but u were the one who wanted time and space in the first place not me.." then she said.. " but i know that you will always be the one hurtin more.. it took me a week to get over you.." i still want her back.. i miss her every single day when i initiated no contact for a month..what should i do.. i know for a fact that shes been out every single day with her friends and has been really busy with other stuff too.. she wants to hang out this weekend..but wants to catch up as friends though..i dont know if its a good idea because.. i still love her.. and it might bring more pain seeing her and know that she used to be my gf and now shes not .. i just really want her back.. i dont thikn we can just be friends because it hurts me too much.. Don't do it! I had been doing NC for 6 weeks and was making great progress until I saw my ex yesterday and now I am back to where I started emotionally. Stop questioning the what if's and exercise some tough love (this applies as much to me as it does you). Do not speak to her on the phone, by email, or IM and do not hang out or meet up with her. It will only end in tears. Been there. Done that. The T-shirt is ready to be binned.
marlena Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I agree with Cali. If my ex said something like that to me, I'd hang up the phone and NEVER,EVER talk to him/her again! Some people have a nerve!!! Or no class, maybe!
bejshermanoaks Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 Took her a week to get over you? I dont believe she she meant that for a second!!! Just trying to make herself seem less vulnerable. It is rude, and inconsiderate, but people say things like that all the time to not seem like a loser. Forget her words, and look at her actions..her actions are she wants to spend time with you...if she wants to hang out with you, there is a shot. If someone wants to spend time with you, I take that as a good chance that something can build from there...
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