Lance Uppercut Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 New to this site and wanted to tell me story so here goes.... 10 years ago I met this girl(Kellie) and we saw each other for a few months. She was super nice and seemed to genuienly have a good heart. Out of all the women I have known in my life, I for sure felt that She was the best in terms of being a good person. I was young and stupid back then and started seeing an ex-girlfriend so I just sorta brushed Kellie off but wasnt mean or anything.... we lost contact and that was that. Later on in life I always wondered what she was doing and missed Her and also felt bad for not being more (into her) I guess you could say.... Well fast forward to OCT 07 and to my shock and happiness She gets ahold of me on myspace... Turns out She got married and had a kid but was in the process of getting a divorce from an abusive husband. So we start to talk again and hang out and go on dates ect. I should mention that Kellie is somewhat financially destitute being a single mom and husband not paying for anything ect.. So I offer to help out a little which becomes more and more and more. Fast forward to Christmas and She tells me that She is not ready to give up on Her marriage so I'm like ummm ok and to be honest very hurt because before She tells me this, we were getting every close and making plans for the future and blah blah blah.... So I think thats it and begin to move on then a week later She starts being all nice again and wanting to hang out and tells me that She is for sure done with her husband.... Soooo we start to hang out again and get even closer than before but I should also mention that She keeps asking me to help her out with bills, paying things ect.... Fast forward to about a month ago which is the last time I saw Her when we met for dinner and I gave her a check to make her car payment.... After that is when things started to go south.... She wouldnt call me when she said she would, breaking plans to meet and hang out... coming up with crazy excuses for why She couldnt meet or whatever.... I know there is probably someone else involved now, I know I should give up and write Her off... Thing is I Love her. I feel bad for what has happend to her in her life. I also cant believe that She would acutally be like this.... oh wells.... just wanted to share some of my story, thanks... stupid I know
Legend Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Wow you got played hard man. Sorry :\ Try to cancel those checks if you can... best of luck, forget her.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 You got played hard by a golddigger. She played with your emotions to get at your money. Hoped you canceled your checks.
Balthazar Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Nothing stupid about your story Lance. You may have parted with some cash, but a valuable lesson was learned...
Author Lance Uppercut Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Thanks for the replies... It's too late to cancel the checks now.... I do look at it like I payed to find out what She was really like I guess... still kills me to think thats how she is. You know hind sight is always 20/20 and looking back I can see things more clearly now but at the time I just wanted to believe in the fantasy. Like one time I asked Her to look straight at me and Her reply was " to see if I'm lying?" Now that wasnt the reason at all but why would someone say that? lolz The hardest part is not calling or texting... its been 3 days and I just want to call and get it all out on the table but I know nothing good will come of it.
Tony T Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 I hope the lesson you got out of this is NEVER get involved with someone in the process of a break up or a divorce. You become a rebound for sure and those don't last. Everybody wants somebody around to help them feel good during those devastating times and you were it for her. I'm truly sorry. Also, NEVER make somebody's payments for them or give them money no matter how impoverished they are. It just doesn't work. You can't buy love, you can only buy heartache. I hope this was a big eye opener for you. Somehow, I have the feeling this has happened to you before. Let this be the last!!! Unfortunately, you haven't heard the last of her....the next time she needs something she will be on your doorstep just like she was there when she needed assistance getting through her divorce. Shut the door on her, please!
Author Lance Uppercut Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Well I can honestly say that this has never happened to me before. What makes it even harder to take is it was by someone I would have NEVER expected to do it.... And I really believe in my heart of hearts that I will never hear from Her again...
DanielMadr Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 You met a ho married to a pimp. Im sorry for you. But you know what it is experience. Next time you wont play Captain Save-a-Ho.
Rowdy Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 She has definitely been taking advantage of your kindness. Why? Because she knows that she can. It's not easy, but you need to let her go.
AussieJack Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 She has definitely been taking advantage of your kindness. Why? Because she knows that she can. It's not easy, but you need to let her go. YEP! another rebound guy who thinks that women in a pending divorce are genuine. They are "branch swingers" dude.. Which is why I have this rule . " NEVER become involved with someone who is still connected or attached to "the live remains of their previous disaster". They are always UNFIT to be in a new relationship for several years. YOu found out how ,manipulative and devious some women can be.
City_girl Posted March 16, 2008 Posted March 16, 2008 YEP! " NEVER become involved with someone who is still connected or attached to "the live remains of their previous disaster". They are always UNFIT to be in a new relationship for several years. YOu found out how ,manipulative and devious some women can be. Think the first bit is spot on but men are also the same when connected in any way to their ex, it;s not just women. some of us are genuine and have dealt with our ****. I say learn from it but don't let it affect you in the next scenariol. It would be very easy to hold back financially with the next girl and loose her. Women are funny creatures and we view a man's desire to spend cash on us as a sign of his investment in the relationship. DOn't hand over cash tho, that's not fair of any woman to ask, buy flowers, little gifts, take her away for a weekend or for dinnner. Your a really good guy, learrn but don't change your nature. Wish I could find one like you
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