CJ77 Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I'm probably just being overanalytical but my ex and I have been broken up now for almost a year in may but I just cant seem to shake the feeling that he still likes me. I've considered all the possiblilities such as that I'm still in denial or that it's just what i subconsciously wish were true. But even when i tell myself that its just me thinking irrationally the feeling wont leave. Back in the fall my ex had told me that he had regretted the decision to break it off with me but he never acted on those words. When asked why he doesnt act on it all he could tell me was that he meant it and perhaps we should get together to clear the air on things. A few months had passed and just a month ago i asked him if he wanted to get together for some coffee as he had been telling me that we should get together for coffee. we had planned it for the upcoming weekend and when the weekend came i never heard from him. My ex and I communicate strictly through aim. He goes through spurts where he im's me constantly and times where he IM's me every few days. So after that weekend we were supposed to go out he just Im's me like nothing ever happened. Last week i finally decided to say something about it and he totally ignored me and then the next day Im'ed me like nothing. I was out of work for three weeks due to an injury and i finally went back last week. And I saw him. He did his usual behavior when he sees me, puts on a big smile and says hi. Then when he sees me the rest of the shift he will look at me and raise his eyesbrows and open his eyes wide but will never really talk to me in person. Also whenever i walk in a room i feel his eyes on me but when i go to look at him he either isnt looking or he has that look when someone is looking straight ahead but u can tell that they are doing it on purpose. I am 22 and my ex is 20. I already have my carreer whereas he is still working on his so my piont of all this is... Is it possible for a guy to stay away from a girl he truly does care about until he know he can make her a priority. In our relationship the biggest issue was that I was always upset with him because he never had time for me and some months i would only see him twice in that one month. when he broke up with me he had said that he just doesnt have the time right now but that he was breaking up with me as to not ruin any future chances he might be able to have with me. His mom also told me that maybe if her son and i really had something we will get back together one day. After we had broken up he would speak very highly of me to coworkers who had asked what had happened but would then add that he just cant see how it would work between us. But i always thought that if u really truly care about someone you will make it work, not risk the girl getting away. I mean if he could sit on the computer for hours and talk to me, why would he back out of hanging out with me. What is the difference if we talk through a computer or are face to face??? Why would he suggest we hang out sometime but then when it comes down to it, he doesnt?
soapbox Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 He must not be sure if he really wants to open this can of worms again. I'd say let him know that you'd be down to get together if he's willing, but that's it's up to him to CALL YOU (NOT IM) when a time works good for him. IMs are so stupid and impersonal, you cannot take them seriously. If he's really serious about meeting up with you, then he can give you a call, give you a time and place, and SHOW UP!
Whey2Big4u Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 no one is ever too busy not to see someone. IME if they dont see you its becasue they choose not to. as for talking hours on aim, its not in person, so its easier. To sit with someone in person is harder and can bring back up old memories. IME my ex wont physically talk to me, but we sorta talked thought text. she refuses to see me in person becuase she cant face me
bejshermanoaks Posted March 15, 2008 Posted March 15, 2008 He is interested..just not sure how much...i agree with soapbox, be vulnerable and prepared to be rejected (as a worst case scenario) and say that youd like to spend time with him in person and hang out...tell him to call you if he wants and that the IM is not enough...give that a shot, and good luck...
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